CHAPTER 3 and NVC!
RELATIONSHIP STRATEGY Emotional Intelligence Relationships add value Partnering with Four Key Groups –Customers –Secondary decision makers –Company support staff –Management personnel
SELF IMAGE Thoughts about yourself that influence how you relate to others. It’s self-fulfilling It can be changed Development: –Focus on future –Develop expertise in selected areas –Develop a positive mental attitude
Natural and Learned Clustered Trusting
NVC FUNCTIONS Supplementing Substituting Contradicting Regulating Accenting Indicates Status
NVC Kinesics –Entrance and Carriage –Facial Expressions Chronemics Oculesics
NVC Haptics Shaking Hands Eye contact Firmness Depth Duration Dryness
NVC Proxemics –Primary –Secondary –Public
NVC Appearance/Wardrobe Engineering –No single “dress for success” look –Heuristics Simplicity Appropriateness Quality Visual Integrity
NVC Voice Quality/Paralanguage –Rate –Tone- NO MONOTONE!!!!! –Volume –Enthusiasm
MANNERS First names? Offensive comments or stories Personal views on religion/politics Eating Voice/ messages
CONVERSATION STRATEGIES Be yourself! Listen! Here and now observations Compliments Mutual acquaintances or interests BLAH…BLAH….BLAH BLAH….BLAH….BLAH