Five Love Languages of Teenagers by Dr. Gary Chapman Lesson 1.6c

Introduction Communicating is a difficult skill. Communicating love is even more difficult. As humans, we are fallen and have issues even when it comes to giving and receiving love from others. We need to understand how to meet each other’s need for love. Loving others is what we are commanded to do. Understanding how to love others is crucial to Christ’s kingdom work. If you do not have the same love language as others, that doesn’t mean you can’t show them love. Rather, you need to work at understanding their languages and focus on their needs rather than your own. Communicating is a difficult skill. Communicating love is even more difficult. As humans, we are fallen and have issues even when it comes to giving and receiving love from others. We need to understand how to meet each other’s need for love. Loving others is what we are commanded to do. Understanding how to love others is crucial to Christ’s kingdom work. If you do not have the same love language as others, that doesn’t mean you can’t show them love. Rather, you need to work at understanding their languages and focus on their needs rather than your own.

Introduction (cont.) Based on these ideas, Dr. Gary Chapman discusses approaches on how to communicate love using five methods: Based on these ideas, Dr. Gary Chapman discusses approaches on how to communicate love using five methods: –1: Words of affirmation –2: Physical touch –3: Quality time –4: Acts of service –5: Gifts

Love Language 1: Words of Affirmation This language refers to offering verbal compliments, and offering encouragement. This language refers to offering verbal compliments, and offering encouragement. Sincere compliments and encouragement can help individuals overcome personal issues or insecurities by validating their sense of self-worth. Sincere compliments and encouragement can help individuals overcome personal issues or insecurities by validating their sense of self-worth.

Love Language 2: Physical Touch Parents are encouraged to hold, hug and embrace their children and babies for healthy and natural growth. Parents are encouraged to hold, hug and embrace their children and babies for healthy and natural growth. We all have been wired with the need for physical affection. A pat on the back or a hug affirms us that we are loved and that we have worth. We all have been wired with the need for physical affection. A pat on the back or a hug affirms us that we are loved and that we have worth. Some are not willing to allow others to touch them because of possible insecurities, past events, or resistance to making themselves vulnerable. Some are not willing to allow others to touch them because of possible insecurities, past events, or resistance to making themselves vulnerable.

Love Language 3: Quality Time Time is a commodity and when you decide to spend time with another person, you are telling them that they are worthy. Time is a commodity and when you decide to spend time with another person, you are telling them that they are worthy. Quality time refers to focused attention on individuals, doing what they like to do rather than what you want to do. Quality time refers to focused attention on individuals, doing what they like to do rather than what you want to do. Conversation is an important aspect of spending time with others. Conversation is an important aspect of spending time with others.

Love Language 4: Acts of Service Simple chores or random acts of kindness can express volumes. Simple chores or random acts of kindness can express volumes. Taking time to perform these tasks is a powerful expression of love. Taking time to perform these tasks is a powerful expression of love. It is also important to understand what types of acts bring joy to an individual’s life. It is also important to understand what types of acts bring joy to an individual’s life. Acting in service must not feel like a chore, it should be sincere and heart-felt. Acting in service must not feel like a chore, it should be sincere and heart-felt.

Love Language 5: Gifts A gift is a visual symbol of love to the recipient. A gift is a visual symbol of love to the recipient. It relays to the receiver that he or she is loved. It relays to the receiver that he or she is loved. It is not about spending money, but investing in the relationship. It is not about spending money, but investing in the relationship. Gifts also need to be free of any personal agenda. Gifts also need to be free of any personal agenda. Gifts do not need to be large and elaborate but do need to be meaningful and sincere. Gifts do not need to be large and elaborate but do need to be meaningful and sincere.

Journal What is your love language? What is your love language? Do you show love in the same way you would like to receive love? Do you show love in the same way you would like to receive love? Is it difficult for you to communicate your love for your parents? For your siblings? For your friends? For your community? Explain why and how you can work towards resolving this. Is it difficult for you to communicate your love for your parents? For your siblings? For your friends? For your community? Explain why and how you can work towards resolving this.