What Missionaries Ought to Know… A handbook for Life and Service Ronald L. Koteskey New Hope International Ministries

Grief “Intense, emotional suffering caused by the loss of any kind.”

Grief Losses that increase grief

Grief Losses that increase grief Things

Grief Losses that increase grief Things Transfers

Grief Losses that increase grief Things Transfers Transitions

Grief Losses that increase grief Things Transfers Transitions Travel

Grief Losses that increase grief Things Transfers Transitions Travel Time

Grief Losses that increase grief Things Transfers Transitions Travel Time Triggers

Grief Losses that increase grief Things Transfers Transitions Travel Time Triggers Trauma

Grief Losses that increase grief Things Transfers Transitions Travel Time Triggers Trauma Theology

Grief What can we do about it?

Grief What can we do about it? Be Honest. (Be real).

Grief What can we do about it? Be Honest. Be Informed. ( care.com)

Grief What can we do about it? Be Honest. Be Informed. Be Christian. (I Thessalonians 4:13)

Grief What can we do about it? Be Honest. Be Informed. Be Christian. (I Thessalonians 4:13) Don’t forget your children’s grief.

Grief Sadness in the Form of a Tumor Why must there be sickness? Don’t we suffer enough? The world still spins, but it has frozen for me. I stay in a home I know, but it is complete with unrecognizable features. I grow happier each day, but the pain is still with me. I do not express my feelings. Why must there be sickness?

Saying Goodbye “I am tired of making friendships and then moving all over; to me it is not worth the effort. On furlough I know I am leaving, so why try?”

Saying Goodbye “ I don ’ t know how to deal with the changes that surround the arrival and departure of staff members on the field. Especially with short-termers coming and going, it seems like we are always expanding and contracting to include so many different people on our team … How do we love deeply yet hold lightly? ”

Saying Goodbye “I find it hard to have to say goodbye all the time. People I become friends with leave our part of the field, and I have to stay behind. How do I cope with that other than quit building relationships?”

Saying Goodbye Acts 20:17 – 21:1 Read at your tables. Answer: – What happened? – What actions were involved in saying goodbye? – Are there any principles that you think you could/should be emulated?

Saying Goodbye Principles for Healthy Goodbyes

Saying Goodbye Principles for Healthy Goodbyes Allow enough time for goodbyes.

Saying Goodbye Principles for Healthy Goodbyes Allow enough time for goodbyes. Remember goodbyes are generally harder for those left behind.

Saying Goodbye Principles for Healthy Goodbyes Allow enough time for goodbyes. Remember goodbyes are generally harder for those left behind. Choose a proper setting for the goodbyes.

Saying Goodbye Principles for Healthy Goodbyes Allow enough time for goodbyes. Remember goodbyes are generally harder for those left behind. Choose a proper setting for the goodbyes. Clarify what the loss is.

Saying Goodbye Principles for Healthy Goodbyes Allow enough time for goodbyes. Remember goodbyes are generally harder for those left behind. Choose a proper setting for the goodbyes. Clarify what the loss is. As much as possible, don ’ t leave broken relationships when you leave.

Saying Goodbye Principles for Healthy Goodbyes Allow enough time for goodbyes. Remember goodbyes are generally harder for those left behind. Choose a proper setting for the goodbyes. Clarify what the loss is. As much as possible, don ’ t leave broken relationships when you leave. Don ’ t forget to say goodbye to places and things.

Saying Goodbye Principles for Healthy Goodbyes Allow enough time for goodbyes. Remember goodbyes are generally harder for those left behind. Choose a proper setting for the goodbyes. Clarify what the loss is. As much as possible, don ’ t leave broken relationships when you leave. Don ’ t forget to say goodbye to places and things. Other ideas