TODDLERS FROM ONE TO THREE CHAPTER 11.1 Emotional Development

Emotions at 18 months Self-centered=They think about their own needs and wants (18 months old) Likely to do the opposite of what is requested. Negativism=doing opposite of what others want: “NO!” Desire for independence Frustration The child’s realization of being a separate person How do we guide the child who is negative? 1. Give choices 2. Redirect the child 3. Ask questions

Temper Tantrums Begin at 18 months to the age 3 or 4 If you see it coming try to head it off – distract. Most important you must remain calm! Have you had your own Temper tantrum or seen a child have one? What happened? What did the parents do/say? Best thing to do at home is ignore the behavior.

Emotions at 2 Years of Age More speech and motor skills improve = Less frustration! Expresses love and affection freely Much easier to reason with

Emotions at 2 ½ Years Not so easily distracted anymore Their desires are harder than their ability:  Want blocks stacked in a certain way, but can’t accomplish this on own. Resists being controlled Stubborn, demanding and domineering

Thinking it through… The emotional development stage at age 2 is often referred to as the “terrible twos”……. Turn to the person next to you and think of a more positive nickname for this stage and explain your reasoning. (Be prepared to share!)

3 years Cooperative  More willing to take directions and assistance  They are more physically capable and less frustrated.

Specific Emotions 1. Anger:  Often the way of reacting to frustration  18 month old= has a tantrum usually doesn’t direct the anger toward a particular person or thing. Likely to use physical attacks (hit or kick)  2/3 year old= more likely to aim anger at the object or person they hold responsible for their frustrations Use name-calling, pouting, or scolding Handing Anger  Use words- rather than hitting  Speak calmly- no screaming or yelling  Take deep breaths/ rest  Discuss the misbehavior after the child has calmed down- what should they do instead

Specific Emotions 2. Fear:  1 yr old = high places, strangers, and loud noises  3 yr old= afraid of the dark, animals, and storms Phobias-abnormal fears  Likely to develop in children that are shy and withdrawn Adults communicate fears and instill their fears onto their children Separation anxiety- fear of being away from parents, familiar caregivers  To help: spend special time with the child and be specific when you are coming back  Give a special blanket or stuffed animal

Specific Emotions 2. Fear Dealing with fear:  Support  Encourage child to talk about their fears  Don’t force to confront fear  Read books about the fear  Make unfamiliar situations more secure  Teach how to control frightening situations

Specific Emotions 3. Jealousy Parents are the target of this emotion May resent any show of affection between parents Sibling rivalry- competition between brother and sisters What a parent can do Make sure the child feels love and appreciated Set aside one-on-one time with each child Avoid comparing Let the children take turns in choosing activities NO tattling Talk about the feeling

Specific Emotions 4. Love and Affection: Babies first love those who satisfy their physical needs As they get older it expands to siblings, pets, and people outside the home

Specific Emotions 5. Empathy: The ability to understand how another person feels. Might offer their favorite toy to cheer another person up Caregivers can promote empathy by having a child apologize for a misbehavior

Developing a Positive Self-Concept Self-concept: what you think you are like as a person  Forms in response to the actions, attitudes, and comments of others  Parents/primary caregivers have the strongest influence  Young children believe what others say about them and the opinions of others influence how the children behave  Mastery of skills through exploration Self-esteem: how highly you value yourself How can parents build a positive self-concept?

Apply What You Know! On a separate sheet of paper…. change each statement to a positive statement to use when guiding children! 1. Don’t stand on the slippery slide! 2. STOP SCREAMING! WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU!? 3. Do you want to wash your hands? 4. Don’t whine like a baby. 5. You didn’t share today so you have to eat broccoli for dinner. 6. No yelling! 7. Do you want to go inside? 8. Don’t touch anything with those filthy hands! 9. You will fall if you don’t watch your step. 10. Do you want to take a bath now?