Emotionally Healthy Spirituality and the Multi-Ethnic Church Pete Scazzero

I. The Challenge Before Us 1. Church almost indistinguishable from the world 2. Bridging Racial, Cultural, Economic Barriers is not High on the Church Agenda in the 21 st Century 3. People not experiencing deep transformation. 4. Disconnect: Love for God not translating into love for people. 5. Most people “living off other people’s spirituality.” 6. Most people not deeply in Scripture and prayer. 7. Church not transforming society/culture. 8. Church leadership remains violent leader’s soul and family 8. Level of Distraction, "scatteredness", overload-- rapidly increasing – contributing to the erosion of community.

© Pete and Geri Scazzero 2012

Emotional HealthSpiritual Maturity Emotional Health and Spiritual Maturity Inseparable are Inseparable It is not possible to be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature.

Contemplation (Being w/ God) Activity Your Life © Pete and Geri Scazzero 2011 © Pete and Geri Scazzero 2012

The Church as the New Family of Jesus (Third Culture) © Pete and Geri Scazzero 2012

F. Differentiation and Reactivity © Pete and Geri Scazzero 2012

Scale of Differentiation 0……….…25…… ……….….75……..…..100 © Pete and Geri Scazzero 2012

25-50 Most of self is a “false self” and reflected from others When anxiety is low, they function relatively well Quick to imitate others and change themselves to gain acceptance from others Often talk one set of principles/beliefs, yet do another Self-esteem soars with compliments or is crushed by criticism Often make poor decisions due to their inability to think clearly under stress © Pete and Geri Scazzero 2011

Learning New Skills is Essential to Creating Healthy Church Communities 1.Community Temperature Reading (CTR) 2.Stop Mind Reading 3.Clarify Expectations 4.Genogram Your Family 5.Explore the Iceberg 6.Incarnational Listening 7.Climb the Ladder of Integrity 8.Clean Fighting © Pete and Geri Scazzero 2012

Contemplative Spirituality and Monastacism Daily Officees Sabbath Keeping A “Rule of Life”

The Love of God Prayer Work Rest Relationships Weekly Sabbath Daily Office (3-4x per day) Lectio Divina 1-2x month Day Alone God Journaling regularly Solitude and Silence Evening examen Hiking/nature/beach Yearly 3-4 day retreat Exercise 5-6x Week Well planned vacations 2/3 – 3/3 day off Fridays Annual Trappist trip 3 month Sabbatical Seasons of therapy Reading broadly/widely Limiting Social Media Limiting speaking Attentive to/fun with Geri Engaged w/ Eva, Maria, Christy And Faith Stay in good communication With siblings Monthly coaching Lead a small group Be present to staff/key friends Vacation/holidays Walker family Preaching/Teaching Lead staff/cast vision Chairperson CDC Mentor Rich/Redd Personal development Blog/Facebook House Projects Oversee finances home Wrote I QUIT EHSkill Curriculum EHL conference

© Pete and Geri Scazzero 2011

Build Mature Transformational Culture (ROL, Leadership, Theology of Work, etc) Build Mature Transformational Culture (ROL, Leadership, Theology of Work, etc) Begin the Journey “I QUIT,” “EHC”, “EHS” Begin the Journey “I QUIT,” “EHC”, “EHS” EHS Small Group w/ Leaders Slower, Healthier Life/ New Practices Marriage/Singlen ess (Formation) Marriage/Singlen ess (Formation) EH Skils SG/DVD Curriculum EH Skils SG/DVD Curriculum EHS Church- Wide Initiative EHS Church- Wide Initiative EHS Pastor/Leader Life Cycle Daily Offices- whole church Weekend Services-Messages EHS Small groups