+ Parent Forum: Keeping Your Child Safe in a World of Chaos: Social Media Amy Leone, MS,MA, LMHC Community Impact Inc., JAG Chair

+ Remind Your Kids That Internet: 1.) Is a tool not a toy! 2.) Also that anything put on the internet or app is FOREVER!!!! j 3.) Communicate only with those you ACTUALLY know (as in you have met them in person) 4.) The Internet is a place where people can easily lie and deceive you- just because they said they are something, doesn’t mean they are! 5.) Keep yourself private and do not share personal information.

+ What teens are saying….. Kids spend more then 7 hours a day connected to a digital advice. More then 70% of teens surveyed said they have tricks for deceiving parents about what they do online (LA times) 90% of teens surveyed think its ok for parents to set rules for their phone and internet use. 53% of teens admit to clearing their search history to keep websites they visited off the history. 3 out of 5 kids admit to having more then one Facebook account (Colorado Study)

+ More than 9 out of 10 American teenagers use social media, Instagram as the most popular site by far Instagram as the most popular site by far They found that Instagram has become even more popular, with 76 percent of teens currently saying they use it -- up 7 percent since last spring. By AGATA BLASZCZAK-BOXE CBS NEWS October 8, 2014, 2:04 PM

+ 3 quarters of teens said they were using Instagram as their go to app (Racheal Simmons) This photo-sharing app is social media’s queen bee. Instagram lets users share their photos, and “like” and comment on their friends’. The competition for “likes” encourages creativity in young users, who can use filters and other devices to spruce up their images

+ Instagram is…. A way for tweens and teens to find out what their peers really think of them, who likes them, even how many people like them. They can obsess over their friendships, monitoring social ups and downs in extreme detail. They can strategically post at high traffic hours “Likes,” after all, feel like a public, tangible, reassuring statement of a teens social status. A new way for teens to chase the feeling of being liked. An popularity meter and teens learn to manipulate the levers of success.

+ Leveraging Instagram to do much more then sharing photos (Rachael Simmons) A personal Branding Machine A place for Elaborate Birthday Collages To know what friends really think of them To measure how much a friend likes you As a Public Barometer of Popularity To show BFF PDS A way to Retaliate

+ Specific sites, apps, uses: Web based chat rooms Facebook Tumblr- YouTube- Craigslist Chaturbate Swarm Spring.me Ask.fm Grindr/Blendr & Tinder WhatsApp Meetup

+ The Scary Truth: The 9 Most Dangerous Apps Kik Snapchat Whisper Yik Yak Vine Omegle Tinder App Hiders

+ Whisper &Yik Yak Anonymous secret sharing and messaging. Express yourself honestly. Share and connect with others without having to know them Local Bulletin Board in your area showing recent posts.

+ KIK, Snapcat & Vine Manage your conversations never share your number. Connect with people no matter how you meet them, Can capture an image or video and make it available for a specific time. Best way share life in motion. Unlimited video uploads, free, share on twitter and Facebook

+ ChatRoulette, Omegle, Tinder Chats are anonymous but you can share personal information ChatRoulette and Omegle allows you to video chat with strangers Apps for meeting new friends, picked at random and lets you chat with them. Finds interesting people around you, anonymously can like or pass if you find them attractive, if two people like each other it’s a match and the app allows you to connect with them. These Apps have the ability to chat within them

+ App Hider- FREE available App Hiders: Spy Calculator, Cover Me, Secret Calculator, My photo album, Lock folder, Safe Album Available on ITunes and Google Play Apps that hide secret photo’s, videos, notes, passwords, secret contacts, and text messages. Teens will hide apps in mislabeled folders. Ex homework Hide apps in mislabeled folders on an IPhone all the way to the right.

+ Research shows that a majority of teens believe that their parents are starting to keep tabs on their online and social media lives. "With that, acronyms can be used by kids to hide certain parts of their conversations from attentive parents, Katie Greer is a national Internet safety expert

+ 28 Internet Acronyms: LH6 - Let's have sex WTTP - Want to trade pictures? DOC - Drug of choice TWD - Texting while driving GYPO - Get your pants off KPC- Keeping parents clueless KOTL - Kiss on the lips (L)MIRL - Let's meet in real life PRON – Porn TDTM - Talk dirty to me Oral sex TBH- To be honest "Acronyms used for this purpose could potentially raise some red flags for parents."

+ 28 Internet Acronyms 99 - Parent gone 1174' - Party meeting place THOT - That hoe over there CID - Acid (the drug) Broken - Hangover from alcohol 420 – Marijuana POS - Parent over shoulder SUGARPIC - Suggestive or erotic photo IWSN - I want sex now GNOC - Get naked on camera NIFOC - Naked in front of computer PIR - Parent in room CU46 - See you for sex 53X – Sex. 9 - Parent watching

+ Sexting 46% of kids years old said the have received a sexual picture. 83% of teens years old feel pressured by peers to participate. Talk to your kids about obeying the law Respecting other’s privacy, and everyone's right to keel there bodies private Your values you have about this issues

+ Xbox Live support.xbox.com Grant or restrict access to games based on the ESRB rating. Make sure the movies your children watch are appropriate based on the MPAA rating. Override your own restrictions so you can decide, case by case, which games and movies your children can play Set limits on console play time using the Family Timer. Control access to the online Xbox LIVE® service Manage who your child can communicate with on Xbox LIVE using video. Decide who can see your child's gamer profile and online status. Limit your child's exposure to content created by other members of the Xbox LIVE community. Create personal settings for each child, which applies to their Xbox Live account even when they use it outside the home (for example, on a friend's Xbox 360 console).

+ Overwhelming: New Devices, New Programs, New Apps What can we do to protect our kids?

+ Most kids are not malicious, but ALL kids need guidance on staying safe online On computers ensure restrictions are set to enable the use of private browsing on internet explorer or on Google Chrome incognito mode. This allows all history to be cleared and unseen. Regularly review installed apps Monitor who they are communicating with. Monitor websites and social media apps your kids are using. Don’t assume you home router is the only way to get online ex. Hot spot from phone. Physically review devices your family has. Know what the apps are and what they are used for. Ask questions about who and why.

+ Solutions: IOS has built in parental control settings and Andriod as an App Manager IPHONE, Ipod Touch, Ipad- establish settings to not allow apps to be installed or disable deleting apps without a password. You will need to approve all Itune purchases and installations of apps How to: Settings- General- restrictions- enable passwords- then you can choose the options you want. (apps, TV, movies, explicit music, If you don’t know what the app is look it up! Google play and ITunes have descriptions of all Apps

+ What Now? Remember, your child’s safety is more important than their privacy. As a parent, you aren’t being nosy by checking their cell phone on a regular basis; you are being responsible. Having a common charging area so you can easily check phones could also be a good system for your family. Having a common charging area so you can easily check phones could also be a good system for your family. Do not allow phones or computers in the bedroom over- night. Establish an end time for online use especially on school nights. Also, take the time to explain to them (at an age-appropriate level) why you are asking them questions and checking their phone and privacy settings. Many children do not realize just how much information they are putting out there and how dangerous it can be.

+ If you have an older teen, and find some questionable apps on their phone, it may be a good opportunity for a discussion. Here are a few conversation starter ideas: Conversation starter for YikYak– What kind of things would a person want to post anonymously? How would you personally use this app? What would you post anonymously? Why? Conversation starter for SnapChat – Why do you want to send pictures that disappear? Would you be okay with anyone seeing that pic? Conversation starter for Whisper – Why would you tell your secrets to strangers? If you are struggling with something, will a stranger care or be able to help you? Do you think it would be safe to accept their help/friendship? Conversation starter for any app – Are you being safe with that app? Are you encouraging others or tearing them down? Are you being bullied? Are you putting out too much information about yourself? Information from

+ Internet safety is just like any other kind of safety. You don’t just teach your child how to cross the street one time; you repeat “look both ways” to them for years! Similarly, we need to talk continually about i nternet/app safety.