LESSON 4: BEST BEHAVIOR THE BABYSITTER’S BACKPACK

USING POSITIVE DISCIPLINE Lesson 4.A

BEFORE WE START, WHAT ARE YOUR EXPERIENCES? Take a few minutes and answer these questions on Printable 4.1. When you are done, go to the next slide. 1.Describe the best teacher you had in school or an extra- curricular activity. What helped to make this person a great teacher? 2.Describe your worst teacher. How did this person make you feel? Why did you think this person was a bad teacher? 3.How can you use this information to be a better babysitter? 4.A USING POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

POSITIVE DISCIPLINE TECHNIQUES +Praise & Reflection +Redo’s +Redirecting +Ignoring +Creating a Game +The Countdown +Enforcing Consequences 4.A USING POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

PRAISE AND REFLECTION Praise children and be specific. Try to avoid generic praises like good job or that’s great.  I like the way you drew a pretty flower  Thank you for cleaning up the blocks. Children want to feel that you are listening and focused on them. Try reflecting back what they say to you (like a mirror reflects your image).  Child: I colored a red bird.  Teacher: You did color a red bird. 4.A USING POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

TRY A DO-OVER Give the child a re-do. When a child shows behavior you don’t want, give a reminder and let him or her try again.  I know you remember how to put the blocks away. Please put all the blocks in the basket. I know you can do it this time. 4.A USING POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

RE- DIRECTING When a child is showing negative behavior, try focusing their attention to a new object.  Let’s play with the blocks instead. Which block is your favorite color? 4.A USING POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

IGNORING As long as a child is not harming himself or someone else, try ignoring bad behavior. Look for chances to praise good behavior as soon as possible, so that the child wants to be praised instead of wanting negative attention. Ignoring can be hard to do. See the resources at the end of this section for more information regarding ignoring and it’s effectiveness. 4.A USING POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

CREATING A FUN GAME Children love to play games. If you have a child who doesn’t want to help pick up, make cleaning a fun game.  I’m going to start the timer, and I want to see how many Legos you can pick-up before the timer goes off.  I’m going to play a song. I want to see if you can pick up all the toys before the song ends. 4.A USING POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

STICKING TO THE RULES Children need clear and simple directions that are consistent (remain the same). Be sure to let children know what will happen if they do not follow the rules.  If you throw the toy again, I will have to put the toy away in the cabinet until tomorrow. 4.A USING POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

THE COUNTDOWN Give a child to the count of 3 to begin doing what you have asked them to do.  By the time I count to three, I want to see you picking up the dishes and putting them back in the kitchen basket. 4.A USING POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

+ Positive Parenting Program + National Association for the Education of Young Children + Parent Child Interaction Therapy + American Academy of Pediatrics Magic: Parenting Solutions Using Positive Discipline + Safe Child 4.A REFERENCES Have questions? Look for more info on these websites. 4.A USING POSITIVE DISCIPLINE