It’s not that uncommon to feel like you can’t relate to your parents.

How to Relate to Your Parents

How well do you get along with your parents? Do you ever wish you could relate to them better? Write down > 10 tips < you would give a teen if they were fighting a lot with their parents.

1. Encourage your parents through good behavior. Show them how much you are growing up in the way you behave: –What you do at school /grades –How truthful you are –How polite you are to others –How well you do your chores (without being asked!) –How you handle money –How you show appreciation (Please, Thank You, I Love You) –The way you take care of your possessions

2. Be considerate of Mom and Dad! Don’t just expect things to be given to you. Remember, they are the ones “bringing home the bacon” for you. Ask nicely and be prepared if they say “no.” If they do say “No,” do not resort to child-like communication! It will only cause them to react in a parent-like way. Don’t be demanding! –Let them listen to what they want on the radio or watch on TV once in awhile.

3. Tell them “Thank You” at least once a day. Thanks for what? –Providing for me (food, shelter, school supplies, entertainment, spending money, support, protection, cell phone, etc.) When you tell your parents “thanks”, and really mean it, your life will become easier. Everyone likes to be thanked. Don’t take your parents for granted. Circumstances in life can change overnight.

4. Do something special/slefless for your parents. The key is to do something for your parents BEFORE they ask. –Suggestions: clean your room, help clean the house, wash the dishes, fix dinner, offer the baby-sit younger siblings, etc. When you do something unexpected, you are telling them by your actions that you respect and love them. They will then show you more respect and be willing to give you more privileges.

5. Apologize when you’ve done something wrong. Everyone makes mistakes. It is part of being human. Don’t be afraid to tell your parents that you’re sorry when you have done something wrong. It is a sure sign of a responsible adult to admit when you are wrong. If you are sincere when you apologize, they will be more apt to treat you like an adult. They will also have more respect for you.

6. Don’t do anything that could betray the trust of your parents or cause them to question your honesty. This is the most important thing you can do if you really want to positively influence your parents! The more trust your parents have in you, the more freedom you will have! It is VERY difficult to repair that trust once it is broken because of poor choices or behavior.

7. Don’t judge your parents. Remember, everyone makes mistakes, even parents! Whenever you see some of your parents’ faults, remember that no one is perfect. It is difficult being a parent! Try to imagine yourself in their shoes. Would you really want all of the responsibility that a parent has to deal with?

8. Ask your parents for advice. Ask your parents for advice about things that are important to you. Believe it or not, they WANT you to turn to them for help. Remember, your parents were teenagers once too! They have been where you are and they have a lot of good, solid advice that they can share with you. This is also a great way to develop a deeper and more sensitive relationship with your parents.

9. Talk to your parents! As hard as you think it might be to do, it is a great way to strengthen your relationship. Try talking to your parents like you talk to your friends. Your parents WANT you to share experiences, talk about your problems and ask for advice.

10. Spend time with your parents. Spending time with your parents also strengthens your relationship. Try to plan one night a week where you “hang-out” with your family. (Play games or watch movies together, etc.) Individual time with your parents is also very important to develop a greater relationship with them. Remember, quality time is more important than quantity time.

Experiment Your homework this week is to try at least 2 of these tips to see if you can better relate to your parents. Pick and circle 2 of the tips listed. Over the next week you are to try and do these 2 tips. Tell your parents what you did after you’ve done the experiment and have them sign. Due Friday, April 4th

Resolving Conflict with Integrity Family members should be able to have differences of opinions and ideas without conflict. Let’s play Family Feud! I need: –Two “families” of 4-6 students each –Scorekeeper –The remainder will be the audience

Rules A question will be asked. First group to write their answer on the sticky and get the bell is the first group to answer. Group has to wait to answer until all audience members write one answer on a piece of paper. No one can say their answer of give clues.

Reflection Questions to consider with this activity: What would have happened if the family all had the same idea and answered the same? Is it good to have different ideas within families? When does this become a problem? Was it frustrating when you were depending on a family member to answer with an original idea? In what ways are families considered team members?