QUIZ No quiz this week 100% if you are in class and on time! Write your name on the quiz slip and pass it up There WILL be a quiz next week (Chapter 9)

SELF-DISCLOSURE CHAPTER 8 REVIEW

REVIEWING SELF-DISCLOSURE True/False: Self-Disclosure must involve intentionality, choice, private information, and risk Which is more personal/private? History or Story True/False: Self-Disclosure is an objective process How does reciprocity factor into self-disclosure? What are some reasons individuals choose to self- disclose? What are some reasons individuals decide NOT to self- disclose? What does the Social Penetration Model/Theory say about personal information and self-disclosure?

CHAPTER 10 CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS

RELATIONSHIPS AND INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION Communication Indicates close relationships Develops close relationships Interpersonal relationship not synonymous with interpersonal communication

TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS Role relationships vs. Close Relationships Close relationships = unique communication patterns

DEFINING/FRAMING CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS Cultural Performances Cognitive Constructs Relational scripts Linguistic Constructs Labeling Gender Culture Relational culture

INFLUENCES Attraction (short term and long term) Matching hypothesis Culture Gender and Sex Electronic Media Hyperpersonal communication

COMMUNICATING IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS Systems Theory Dialectics Theory Social Exchanges Theories Stage Models

SYSTEMS THEORY Relationships as living systems 6 part system Wholeness Interdependence Hierarchy Boundaries or openness Calibration or feedback e.g. communication Equifinality

DIALECTICS THEORY Autonomy vs. Connection Openness vs. Protection Novelty vs. Predictability Specifically in friendships… Internal dialectics Judgment vs. Acceptance Affection vs. Instrumentality External dialectics Public vs. Private Ideal vs. Real Dealing with the tension Cyclic Alternation Segmentation Selection Integration Neutralizing Disqualifying Taboo Topics Reframing

SOCIAL EXCHANGE THEORIES Social exchange (costs vs. rewards) Theory of Interdependence When costs outweigh rewards Comparison level Comparison level of alternatives Relative power position

KNAPP’S STAGE MODELS Coming Together Initiating Short-term attraction vs. Long-term attraction Experimenting Small Talk Intensifying Integrating Bonding Coming Apart Differentiating Possible conflict? Circumscribing Stagnating Avoiding Terminating

HOW TO COMMUNICATE To Begin Networking Offering Approaching Sustaining Affinity seeking To maintain and/or repair To maintain Preventative Maintenance (assurance, openness, positivity, apologies, sharing tasks, social networking) Support Using Humor To repair Corrective Maintenance Meta-Communication Apology

COMMUNICATING IN CONTEXT: RELATIONSHIPS PART 2 CHAPTER 11; THE LAST CHAPTER!!!!!!!

FAMILY Defining family Blood related? Voluntary kin Intentional families Understanding family culture Family Stories Rituals Types of families (consider how times have changed) Nuclear family (traditional and contemporary) Gay- and lesbian-headed family Multigenerational family Sandwich generation Single-parent family

FRIENDSHIPS Relationship of choice Authentic friends Expectations Symmetrical reciprocity Communion (trust and intimacy very important) Solidarity Agency Healthy Friendships vs. Unhealthy Friendships

FRIENDSHIPS (STAGES) Childhood Friendship Stage 0: Momentary Playmateship Stage 1: One-Way Assistance Stage 2: Two-Way, Fair- Weather Cooperation Stage 3: Caring and Sharing Stage 4: Mature Friendship Adult Friendship Stage 1: Role-Limited Interaction Stage 2: Friendly Relations Stage 3: Moving Toward Friendship Stage 4: Nascent Friendship Stage 5: Stabilized Friendship Stage X: Waning Friendship

ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP Triangular Theory of Love Intimacy, passion, decision/commitment Short term and long term commitment Related research topics Expressing romantic feelings Consider individual’s love style, own self concept Types of romantic relationships Long distance Military Same sex Multiracial

RELATIONSHIP MAINTENANCE C.A.R.E. (Constantly Assessing Relationship Excellence) Recognize relational history Keep relationship alive Watch out for (and handle) relationship ruts Equity