SELF-ESTEEM & BODY IMAGE I AM BEAUTIFUL I AM NOT THIN LIKE THE MODELS I WISH I WAS TALLER I AM THE WAY I AM FOR A REASON I AM NOT AS MUSCULAR AS THE OTHER GUYS I LOVE MY HAIR I HAVE A GREAT SENSE OF HUMOR I AM SO SMART I LOVE MY EYE COLOR

Free-Write You have 3 minutes to write how the ‘Pat on the Back’ activity made you feel. You may use some of the following things to help you complete your free-write! You have 3 minutes to write how the ‘Pat on the Back’ activity made you feel. You may use some of the following things to help you complete your free-write! Did you know other people felt that way about you? Did you know other people felt that way about you? What surprised you? What surprised you? What did you already know? What did you already know? How did this make you feel? How did this make you feel? How could you use the information you learned about yourself to help you when you may be feeling down or sad? How could you use the information you learned about yourself to help you when you may be feeling down or sad?

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What is self-esteem? Self-esteem: measure of how much you value, respect, and feel confident about yourself Self-esteem: measure of how much you value, respect, and feel confident about yourself How much you like yourself How much you like yourself There are many levels of self-esteem There are many levels of self-esteem Nobody has high self-esteem all the time Nobody has high self-esteem all the time People who have healthy self-esteem are between high and low levels of self-esteem People who have healthy self-esteem are between high and low levels of self-esteem

High/Low Self-esteem Discuss, with a neighbor, one area in which you feel you have high self-esteem, and one area in which you feel you have low self- esteem Discuss, with a neighbor, one area in which you feel you have high self-esteem, and one area in which you feel you have low self- esteem Mrs. Smith: high self-esteem with lacrosse skills, low self-esteem with math!! Mrs. Smith: high self-esteem with lacrosse skills, low self-esteem with math!! THE GOOD NEWS: as you grow as a person, your self-esteem changes!! THE GOOD NEWS: as you grow as a person, your self-esteem changes!!

High vs. Low Feel good about themselves Feel good about themselves Know their strengths/weaknesses Know their strengths/weaknesses Accept who they are Accept who they are Like themselves Like themselves Comfortable with their personality Comfortable with their personality Comfortable with their physical appearance Comfortable with their physical appearance Usually do not depend on the opinions of others to feel good about themselves Usually do not depend on the opinions of others to feel good about themselves Do not let negative comments of others affect them too much Do not let negative comments of others affect them too much Confident in themselves Confident in themselves More likely to choose behaviors that are healthy More likely to choose behaviors that are healthy Do not feel very good about themselves Do not feel very good about themselves Affected deeply by what others say to them Affected deeply by what others say to them Low level of confidence Low level of confidence Sometimes not happy with physical appearance Sometimes not happy with physical appearance May not be comfortable with personality May not be comfortable with personality Often, they may practice unhealthy behaviors Often, they may practice unhealthy behaviors

How people effect your self-esteem Family: the way your family acts toward you and the amount of support they give you can affect self-esteem Family: the way your family acts toward you and the amount of support they give you can affect self-esteem Friends: encourage and support each other to help build high self-esteem Friends: encourage and support each other to help build high self-esteem Peers: may tease or bully which would hurt your self-esteem Peers: may tease or bully which would hurt your self-esteem Teachers and Coaches: can support and encourage you Teachers and Coaches: can support and encourage you

The Media and Your Self-esteem What is the media? What is the media? Newspapers, tv, magazines, internet, radio, movies, music videos Newspapers, tv, magazines, internet, radio, movies, music videos Usually tend to show people who are VERY successful and UNUSUALLY attractive Usually tend to show people who are VERY successful and UNUSUALLY attractive Some people compare themselves to the people they see in the media Some people compare themselves to the people they see in the media If somebody is not comfortable with his/her body, it may lead to an unhealthy body image If somebody is not comfortable with his/her body, it may lead to an unhealthy body image

BODY IMAGE Body Image: the way you see and imagine your body Body Image: the way you see and imagine your body Your body image can affect your self-esteem Your body image can affect your self-esteem If you don’t feel good about your body, you probably won’t feel good about yourself If you don’t feel good about your body, you probably won’t feel good about yourself If you understand that the media tends to show a certain body type, you will be less likely to have an unhealthy body image. If you understand that the media tends to show a certain body type, you will be less likely to have an unhealthy body image.

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Who influences Self-Esteem the most? YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You can decide how much you value and respect yourself. You can decide how much you value and respect yourself. You can also decide to focus on your strengths and encourage yourself You can also decide to focus on your strengths and encourage yourself

Building Self-Esteem You can learn to have healthy self-esteem by building good character You can learn to have healthy self-esteem by building good character 3 keys to building good character and healthy self-esteem: 3 keys to building good character and healthy self-esteem: Having integrity Having integrity Respecting yourself Respecting yourself Being assertive Being assertive

3 Key Ways to Healthy Self-Esteem Integrity: honesty to yourself and others, your ability to take responsibility for your actions Integrity: honesty to yourself and others, your ability to take responsibility for your actions Respecting yourself: knowing what is right and wrong Respecting yourself: knowing what is right and wrong You are respecting yourself if you refuse to join an activity that you know is wrong You are respecting yourself if you refuse to join an activity that you know is wrong Being Assertive: acting on your thoughts and values in an honest, respectful way. Being Assertive: acting on your thoughts and values in an honest, respectful way. You are being assertive when you communicate your feelings without making other people feel bad You are being assertive when you communicate your feelings without making other people feel bad

7 Ways to Help You Build Your Self-Esteem 1. Get to know yourself 2. Accept yourself 3. Be good at something 4. Set a goal 5. Be positive 6. Turn problems into challenges 7. Do something for others

In the middle of your paper draw one of your favorite things

Get to know yourself Things I like Things I don’t like my strengths, or positive qualities my weaknesses

Events Pick out three memorable stories or events from your life that you think helped shape who you are: INT in finals  Helped me to accept failure and made me work harder… Winning States  Helped me realize there are better things in life… Best Friends Death  Not a day goes by…

People Who have been some important people in my life and describe why they are important to you: Family members… Friends… Peers… Coaches/Teachers/Others … Celebrities/Role-Models… Dennis Byrd- How do you react? Wife- Commitment, life Family- Life lessons

Get to know yourself Think about who you are as a person Think about who you are as a person What kinds of things do you like? What kinds of things do you like? What kinds of things don’t you like? What kinds of things don’t you like? What are your strengths, or positive qualities? What are your strengths, or positive qualities? What are your weaknesses? What are your weaknesses?

Accept yourself You must accept your strengths and weaknesses You must accept your strengths and weaknesses This include accepting your personality and appearance This include accepting your personality and appearance Everyone has parts of their appearance that they like parts that they dislike Everyone has parts of their appearance that they like parts that they dislike

Be good at something Be good at something Think of the things you like to do Think of the things you like to do Choose an activity that you would like to do well Choose an activity that you would like to do well In your free time, concentrate on practicing the activity In your free time, concentrate on practicing the activity If you like what you are doing, you will probably become better at it If you like what you are doing, you will probably become better at it

Set a goal Following a plan to reach some sort of goal will give you a sense of accomplishment Following a plan to reach some sort of goal will give you a sense of accomplishment Start by setting a small goal Start by setting a small goal By setting goals and reaching them, you will find your strengths By setting goals and reaching them, you will find your strengths

Goal Setting On the blue paper, make a list of all the things that you would like to do or accomplish in your life Mr. Driscoll Run a marathon without stopping Ride a horse full speed through the country Go on an African Safari Hike the Colorado Rocky Mountains Kayak through the Snake river (Grand Canyon) Sky dive Serve my community and family Be able to see my students/players as successful healthy adults Run with the bulls Ride on a dolphin Win a PA state Lacrosse Championship Send a player to a major Division 1 Lacrosse school Attend 30 student/player weddings Sail privately to Italy/Europe

Goal Setting Now pick 5-7 of the most important ones that you wrote down For each one of the 5-7 you are going to make short-term goals to show that you can achieve them Example on Board

Be positive Be your own personal cheerleader Be your own personal cheerleader Example: imagine that you are nervous for a test. You can say to yourself, “I studied for this test, and I know I can do well. I can do it!” Example: imagine that you are nervous for a test. You can say to yourself, “I studied for this test, and I know I can do well. I can do it!”

Turn problems into challenges Imagine you tried out for a swim team and didn’t make a team. Not making the team will obviously be disappointing. Imagine you tried out for a swim team and didn’t make a team. Not making the team will obviously be disappointing. However, you may choose to see it as a challenge instead. Your challenge can be to try harder for next year. However, you may choose to see it as a challenge instead. Your challenge can be to try harder for next year. Now you also may have the opportunity to take part in the school newspaper! Now you also may have the opportunity to take part in the school newspaper!

Do something for others Helping people who need help is a good way to build self-esteem. Helping people who need help is a good way to build self-esteem. Volunteering allows you to share your strengths with other people Volunteering allows you to share your strengths with other people

BODY IMAGE Body image is the way you see yourself, the way you feel about your appearance, and your level of comfort with your body. Body image is the way you see yourself, the way you feel about your appearance, and your level of comfort with your body.

BODY IMAGE Healthy body image means: Healthy body image means: Realistic view of how they look Realistic view of how they look Not being easily influenced by what people say or by what they see in media Not being easily influenced by what people say or by what they see in media

BODY IMAGE Unhealthy body image means: Unhealthy body image means: Unrealistic expectations of how they look and wanting to change how they look Unrealistic expectations of how they look and wanting to change how they look Deeply affected by the societal views of how they should look Deeply affected by the societal views of how they should look

Influences on Body Image Anyone that you come in to contact with can affect your body image. Anyone that you come in to contact with can affect your body image. Family Family Friends Friends Peers Peers Teachers Teachers Coaches Coaches

Influences on Body Image Magazines, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Television, Youtube, Dolls, Commercials, etc.. Magazines, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Television, Youtube, Dolls, Commercials, etc.. ALL of these things can be positive or negative for your body image. ALL of these things can be positive or negative for your body image. It’s important to know that they way you ACT is the most important part of you. You are not defined by the way you look! It’s important to know that they way you ACT is the most important part of you. You are not defined by the way you look!