To Safe Space! Facilitated By: Daniel M. Maxwell Director Campus Center

Expectations of the Program Respect the learning process. We live in a heterosexist society and are products of our upbringing. Some people know more about LGBT issues than others. We all will learn from each other. Ask questions. If you do not understand something, please ask. It could be a question you will get asked as an ally. Facilitators are here to answer questions; however, their answers will be based on their experiences and may not encompass the whole LGBT community. Demonstrate respect and tolerance for all participants and facilitators. Negative or hurtful language is not part of the Safe Space Program. Have fun and don’t be afraid to laugh. Serious issues will be discussed, but becoming an ally is something exciting and fun, and it will help to have a sense of humor as an ally.

Goal of the Program The goal of the Safe Space program is to provide a network of students, staff, and faculty committed to providing support to LGBT individuals and their allies at IUPUI and beyond. Additionally, as identifiable allies, this program will provide you with peers in your growth as an ally. Remember, in order to support others, we also need to be supported.

What is an Ally?

The Dating Game! Boy Girl Male Female ManWoman He She His Hers Him Her Guy Gal

Heterosexual Survey

Journal One: Checking In Use page 37 of the packet What are your reactions and feelings about “The Dating Game” and the heterosexual survey? What do you hope to gain from this Safe Space program?

Common LGBT Symbols

Sexual Orientation vs. Gender Identity Heterosexual Bisexual Homosexual “Male” Androgynous“Female”

Early Learnings -What is the first time you remember knowing that there was a sexual orientation other than heterosexual? -What do you remember learning about LGBT people, and from what source did you learn this? -How did you learn you were expected to be heterosexual?

Understanding LGB Identity Cass (1979) 1) Confusion 2) Comparison 3) Tolerance 4) Acceptance 5) Pride 6)Synthesis

D’Augelli (1994) Exiting heterosexual identity Developing a personal LGB identity status Developing a LGB social identity Becoming LGB offspring Developing a LGB intimacy status Entering a LGB community Understanding LGB Identity

Fassinger (1998) 0 – Non-Awareness 1 – Awareness 2 – Exploration 3 – Deepening/Commitment 4 – Internalization/Synthesis

Awareness:Awareness: It is important to become more aware of who you are and how you are different from and similar to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people. Knowledge/Education:Knowledge/Education: You must begin to acquire knowledge about sexual orientation and what the experience is for lesbian, gay, and bisexual person in society and your campus community. Skills:Skills: You must develop skills in communicating the knowledge that you have learned. Action:Action: Action is, without a doubt the only way we can affect change in society as a whole; for, if we keep our awareness, knowledge, and skills to ourselves, we deprive the rest of the world of what we have learned, thus keeping them from having the fullest possible life.

Creating the Safe Space

Journal Two: Reactions Use page 37 of the packet What have I learned about myself in the coming out role-play activity? How comfortable was I as the receiver? What & how can I improve?

The Ally Contract Date Safe Space Trainer Date Safe Space Member As an Ally, I will:  be a friend  be a listener  be open-minded  acknowledge my own opinions  be willing to talk  commit myself to personal growth in spite of the discomfort it may sometimes cause  recognize my own personal boundaries  recognize when to refer an individual to additional resources  confront my own prejudices  join others with a common purpose  believe that all persons regardless of age, sex, race, gender, religion, ethnicity or sexual orientation should be treated with dignity and respect  engage in the process of developing a culture free of homophobia and heterosexism  recognize my own mistakes, but not use them as an excuse for inaction  be responsible for empowering my role in a community, particularly as it relates to responding to homophobia  recognize the legal powers and privileges that heterosexuals have and which LGBT people are denied  support the Safe Space Program at IUPUI I also understand I’m not:  someone with ready-made answers  necessarily a counselor, nor am I necessarily trained to deal with crisis situations  expected to proceed with an interaction if levels of comfort or personal safety have been violated

Resources The Appendices in your packet have many helpful resources in educating yourself and others about LGBT issues Also see the LGBT resources in Campus & Community Life, the Program in International Human Rights Law at the Law School library, and with the members of Q&A student organization.

For Participating in Safe Space!