Conflict Something Destructive and Scary? A Chance to Learn, Grow & Create? A Little Bit of Both? Let’s find out! Winter 2015

Think About It… Everyone please think about what comes to your mind when you hear the word:Everyone please think about what comes to your mind when you hear the word:CONFLICT Responses?Responses? Examples: -I had a conflict with my locker partner because they are so messy and I like things to be neat. -I have conflicts with my friends because I like Takis but they think Fritos are better.Examples: -I had a conflict with my locker partner because they are so messy and I like things to be neat. -I have conflicts with my friends because I like Takis but they think Fritos are better.

Definitions of Conflict a struggle for power, property, etc.a struggle for power, property, etc. strong disagreement between people, groups, etc., that results in often angry argument strong disagreement between people, groups, etc., that results in often angry argument a difference that prevents agreement a difference that prevents agreement Examples again: Examples again: -I had a conflict with my locker partner because they are so messy and I like things to be neat. -I have conflicts with my friends because I like Takis but they think Fritos are better.

The Point The purpose of the activities that you will be doing during this Hawk Time lesson:The purpose of the activities that you will be doing during this Hawk Time lesson: To realize that conflict is a part of everyday lifeTo realize that conflict is a part of everyday life There are positive and negative ways of handling conflicts.There are positive and negative ways of handling conflicts. There are positive and negative outcomes to how you handle conflictThere are positive and negative outcomes to how you handle conflict

Groups… I will put you into groups I will put you into groups Read the heading on your assigned topic Discuss and write down what types of conflicts might happen Group conflicts 1: Conflicts in the cafeteria 2: Conflicts outside during lunch 3: Conflicts in the classroom 4: Conflicts with family (siblings, cousins, parents) 5: Conflicts with friends Groups will have a few minutes to create their list

Share Your Work… I will call on groups to share 1: Conflicts in the cafeteria 2: Conflicts outside during lunch 3: Conflicts in the classroom 4: Conflicts with family 5: Conflicts with friendsEach group will have 1 minute 1: Conflicts in the cafeteria 2: Conflicts outside during lunch 3: Conflicts in the classroom 4: Conflicts with family 5: Conflicts with friends

Whole-Class Chat… Are most of the conflicts usually handled in positive or negative ways?Are most of the conflicts usually handled in positive or negative ways? Is conflict something we usually think of as something we like or something we don’t like?Is conflict something we usually think of as something we like or something we don’t like? What are some consequences of handling conflict by bottling it up or by blowing up?What are some consequences of handling conflict by bottling it up or by blowing up?

There Is Always Hope… Take a few minutes, as a group, to write down how the conflict you worked on could have been handled in positive ways.Take a few minutes, as a group, to write down how the conflict you worked on could have been handled in positive ways. What is a possible positive response to your conflict? Example: Staying calm during a conflict What is a possible positive response to your conflict? Example: Staying calm during a conflict What is a possible result of using a positive response? Example: Everyone feels respected What is a possible result of using a positive response? Example: Everyone feels respected **Groups will turn in their lists**

Remember… Conflicts are a natural part of everyday life *The concern is not that we will experience conflicts, but how we will handle them*Conflicts are a natural part of everyday life *The concern is not that we will experience conflicts, but how we will handle them* Conflicts can be handled in positive or negative ways *Depending on how conflicts are handled, the outcomes will be creative or destructive*Conflicts can be handled in positive or negative ways *Depending on how conflicts are handled, the outcomes will be creative or destructive* Conflicts are an opportunity to learn and grow *Friendships and relationships can be strengthened and built when we positively respond to conflicts*Conflicts are an opportunity to learn and grow *Friendships and relationships can be strengthened and built when we positively respond to conflicts*

Get Your Pride Points! Practice what you know; use the ideas that you shared during this lesson to solve your own conflicts.Practice what you know; use the ideas that you shared during this lesson to solve your own conflicts. Turn in your class list of positive ways to handle conflict and positive outcomes to Ms. Romero in the counseling Office.Turn in your class list of positive ways to handle conflict and positive outcomes to Ms. Romero in the counseling Office. The responses that are gathered will be displayed for the whole school to see during lunches to help remind everyone how to solve conflicts in positive ways to get positive outcomes.The responses that are gathered will be displayed for the whole school to see during lunches to help remind everyone how to solve conflicts in positive ways to get positive outcomes.