Relationships – Chapter 14 Friendships Essential Question: Why is friendship important and how do friends help you meet different levels of need?

Friends Meet Needs Help with problems, cheer when down, count on when needed Comfort, praise, encouragement, spend time together, share items and ideas Ask your advice, respect your views, and admire your abilities Friends urge you to make new plans, try new things, and learn new skills. Your confidence grows with success. Security Love and Acceptance Esteem Self-Actualization

Forming Friendships Meeting People Expands in Higher Education – expands Begins with As an adult – expands through Family School Out of area/state Self-Actualization

Finding Common Ground You usually have _________________ _____ ___________ with the people you meet to form friendships. Some friendships form through attraction to _______________ Something in common differences

Liking Yourself Finding good qualities in yourself helps you see ____________ _______ ____________________ Having a good ___________________ You must believe you have ____________________ _____ ______________ Something to offer Good in others Self-concept

Learning to Get Along with Others Be nice Control your temper Keep a geed sense of humor Compromise

Types of Friendships Not all friendships are ______ _______________ The main difference is the _____________________ between friends. the same closeness

__________________ People you have met but do not know well. Not a _______________ ____________ relationship. May become friends __________ __________. Acquaintances close personal over time

_______ ______________ Closest type of friendship. Share common __________ and __________. Enjoy the same ______________. Help build __________ ______________. This is a deeper friendship that ___________ ___________. Time is needed to __________ __________. Best Friends thoughts values activities build trust lasts longer self- concept

__________________ Evolve among people who have something in common. Members have similar _________________ and _____________________. Members may have _____________________ _____________. __________________ A friendship group open only to certain people. Examples: To be accepted you must interests backgrounds Friendship Groups common goals Cliques conform to group standards street gangs college fraternities and sororities

More likely to try something ________ ___________________ Feel more at ease as part of a ________ Used to convince people to ______________ or __________ a certain way. Peer Pressure -The influence peers have on one another. Can be _____________________ or _____________________ ___________________ -An effort to be like other people. A result of ___________________ _________________ Feel they must go along with the crowd to be __________________ Give up some ___________________ _________________ Can include: Teens conform according to their need for_______________. think act harmful helpful Conformity approval peer pressure accepted personal freedom dress music slang Encouragement new group

Ending Friendships The length of a friendship may be affected by __________ When you are younger: When you are older: Older friends are often: Loyal Honest Confide more Disagree less Work through problems age you change friends frequently you are more socially mature

Tension Between Friends May End a Friendship Friends may expect ________________________ Weakness causes tension. __________________ Causes tension perfection competition grades clothes abilities popularity

Happens when there is a breakdown of __________________ Getting Out Be direct. Don’t __________________ Explain the ______________. Don’t let it get ________ ____ ___________. trust lying, cheating, stealing, spreading rumors is not easy avoid the situation problem out of hand

Becoming involved with __________________ Drifting Apart -Due to lack of effort to end a friendship Having many sets of friends throughout life is __________. Feelings change when you ______________ __________________ better. moving changing schools new friends interests change personalities change know someone normal

Parents Affect Friendships Family values affect _________________ Parents don’t trust your __________________ ____ ● Keep parents informed ● Introduce friends ● Both need to express concerns Parents and teens must _________________ They _________ __________________ for you. Kids may __________________ approval judgment pick friends rebel communicate

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