Bellwork  Complete Content & Academic Vocabulary in workbook using your textbook.  Chapter 26, p182 in workbook  Write answers on a separate sheet of paper

Relationship Decisions  People gain 3 important benefits from friendships: 1.Emotional support 2.Models for imitation-social and physical skills. 3.Opportunities to practice roles-leader, advice seeker, supporter…friends give feedback as you work to create your identity.  Friendships during the teen years help bridge the gap to independence. Rely less on family while handling life on your own a little more.  Friendship is real-life education. There are issues to approach and problems to be solved.  What are some problems you may have in friendships?

Qualities Important for Getting Along with others and building good friendships: 1.Positive Attitude-people enjoy those that look on the brighter side and have a sense of humor. 2.Accepting- No one wants to be criticized all the time. Someone who overlooks little faults is more fun to be with. 3.Caring & Courteous-People respond to those who show they care; friendly smile, kind words make a difference. 4.Cleanliness- People who are clean and neat are more pleasant to be around.

A very important trait of friendship is reciprocity. Peer Pressure – social pressure on somebody to adopt a type of behavior, dress, or attitude in order to be accepted as part of a group Can Peer Pressure be positive or is it always negative?

Stages of Learning to Love 1.Self-love: A person’s 1 st love is love of self. When babies basic needs are met they learn that they are worthy, lovable beings. 2.Love of caregiver: As babies are cared for and loved, they gradually gain trust and love for their caregivers.(parents) 3.Love of peers: As children interact with peers, they become attached to their playmates (friends). They develop a strong relationship with 1 or 2 best friends of the same gender. These feelings are a form of love.

Stages of Learning to Love 4. Hero worship: Developing a loving admiration for an older person. May be an older sibling or relative, family friend, coach, teacher, or celebrity. 5. Love of the opposite gender: During the preteens or early teens, children become interested in the other gender. At first the interest is not specific, later the focus is on one person who catches their interest. These relationships are usually short-lived and based on surface qualities. (Based on the thrill of being newly in love rather than face the realities of a long-term relationship) 6. Mature love: At the highest level of emotional development; builds over time and lasts. Teens are most likely to be in stage 5 Main Attractions worksheet

Becoming a Couple  During the teen years, peer groups expand to include members of the opposite gender.  Within these groups parties, dances, and spending time together takes place.  These groups can give protection because it is less intimidating with other friends around.  Sexual pressures are more manageable in a group. As long as your peer group is reliable, peer pressure can be positive. Parents tend to feel more comfortable when teens associate in groups.  Eventually, people pair off as couples. That relationship becomes more important and other friendships become less important.

Traits that lead to positive dating experiences: 1.Compatibility 2.Honesty 3.Respect 4.Mutual Support 5.Independence Dating – shared social activity involving 2 people Infatuation – an intense emotional involvement that begins with a sudden, strong attraction

Characteristics of Mature Love (Page 519) 1.Secure and Comfortable 2.Shared Interests 3.Similar Beliefs and Goals 4.Highly Focused on the Other Person 5.Accepting but Realistic 6.Responsible 7.Respectful 8.Able to Put Attraction in Perspective 9.Lasting

When Relationships End  People enter relationships with hope.  No one can tell what the future will bring.  Discovering that mature love will not develop may be the end of the relationship causing pain and heartache.  It is far better to end a relationship and move on than to continue in a relationship that is not working for one or both partners.

How to end a relationship that is not for you: 1.Be straightforward. 2.Choose words that are not harmful. 3.Point out why you feel the two of you are not right for each other. 4.Take a firm approach if necessary. 5.Do not give false hope when you know the relationship is over.