Magnet Traditional Parent Bullying Prevention Presentation

negative Bullying consists of negative acts carried out repeatedly over time. perceived or real imbalance of strength or power in a willful manner Intention of hurting another individual repeatedly (usually some one the less powerful)

 Physical:  Physical: hitting, kicking, pushing, choking, and punching  Verbal:  Verbal: threatening, taunting, teasing, starting rumors, hate speech  Psychological:  Psychological: social exclusion, intimidation, spreading rumors  Cyber:  Cyber: writing mean things on someone’s Facebook, ing embarrassing photos of people

girlsboys  Both girls and boys are bullies, but boys are more likely to admit to being one and are also easier to spot and identify because of the tactics they generally use. Physical Verbal physical  Boys tend to use aggressive tactics. (Physical aggression is frequently used and tends to be swift and effective.) I.e. tripping someone, a quick slap/punch, or a knee in the stomach. Verbal aggression often follows the physical aggression or is used to threaten later physical consequences. Psychological Verbally  Girls tend to bully with social alienation (Psychological) and intimidation strategies. (Verbally teasing about her clothes, gossiped about in a malicious manner, or receiving intimidating notes.)  *****Female bullying is typically more insidious, cunning, and difficult to spot than is male bullying. ******

 They are likely to be anxious, insecure children who lack social skills and the ability to defend themselves.  They are often physically weak, cry easily, and are easy targets because they yield to bullying.  There are passive victims or easy targets because they fail to fight back. (They are easy to spot).  Then we have proactive victims who are often restless, irritable, and who tease and provoke others. They will most likely fight back to a point but end up losing. (They are more difficult to recognize because he/she may be seen engaging the bully.)

 They are third group of participants in bullying situations. They are the majority of students at a school (about 85%) who watch bullying incidents and stand silently on the sideline not knowing what to do.  They don’t get involved in bullying events because:  They are afraid the bully will turn on them or retaliate later.  They don’t know what to do.  They are afraid they’ll make things worse for the victim.  They’ll become less popular and be made fun of with the victim.  They don’t believe adults will really help.

 -Reporting it to an Adult. (Asking School Staff for help).  -Being assertive. (Standing up for yourself. Telling the bully that you don’t like this kind of treatment, and to stop doing it.)  -If alone, try and avoid the bully all together. (Strength is in numbers).  -If being bullied, try thinking about something positive (self-talk) about one’s self.  Report bullying anomalously in bullying bags (Mr. Walker, Mrs. Wadley, Ms. Bernal)  Write teacher a note  Tell Parents

NORMAL CONFLICT/MEAN BEHAVIORBULLYING  Equal power or are friends  Happens occasionally  Accidental  Not serious  Equal emotional reaction  Not seeking power  Remorse –will take responsibility  Effort to solve problem  Imbalance of power  Repeated negative actions  Intentional  Physical and emotional harm  Unequal emotional reaction  Seeking to control/ material things  No remorse  No effort to solve the problem

 Someone else is picking on them  They are looking for attention  They feel bad about themselves and want other people to feel bad too  They have no friends and feel lonely  They want the people around them to think they are strong and tough

Interference w/ disruption of an educational institution.  -A.R.S Interference w/ disruption of an educational institution. (I.e. threatening to cause physical injury to an employee or student of an educational institution or any person on the property of an educational institution.) This includes property, too. (Class 6 felony). Threatening or Intimidating  -A.R.S Threatening or Intimidating. (I.e. threatening or intimidating if the person threatens or intimidates by words or conduct: to cause physical injury to another or serious damage to property of another). Class 1 Misdemeanor. In some cases it can be a Class 6 felony. Harassment  -A.R.S Harassment (I.e. anonymously or otherwise communicates or causes communication with another person by verbal, electronic mechanical, telegraphic or written means in a manner that harasses. Follows another person in or about a public place for no legitimate purpose after being asked to stop.) Class 1 Misdemeanor.

Talk with your child  If your child is being bullied, they need to have a voice in how the situation is handled. Contact the school  Set up a meeting with your child's teacher(s), social worker, or Principal.  Develop a plan for keeping your child safe, during vulnerable times( class breaks, lunch, recess)\  Find out what activities or counseling options are available for your child.

PHYSICAL EFFECTSEMOTIONAL EFFECTS  Stomach aches  Weight loss/gain  Poor school grades  Headaches  Inability to socialize  Drug and alcohol use  Physical aggression  Alienation  Low self-esteem  Insecurity  Fearful  Withdrawn  Aggression  Anger  Vengeful

 Talk to your child- Never condone bullying behavior speak up and tell your child that the behavior they are engaging in is bullying  Encourage emathy for others - remind your child that everyone has the right to be themselves, to choose their own friends to feel safe at school.  Review consequences of bullying behavior-both discipline consequences and relationship consequences  Reinforce respectful behaviors at home  Help your child deal with feelings in positive ways  Contact the school for help

 Frequent name calling  Regular bragging  A need to always get his own way  A lack of empathy for others  A defiant hostile attitude  Frequent misbehavior at school )name- calling, teasing, intimidating others, physical aggression.

 -Being sent to the office. (Referral)  -Parent notified.  -In-school suspension.  -Suspension.  -Expelled.  -Arrested.

mandatory administrative referral  Staff members will intervene immediately or in a timely fashion to address the bullying behavior that has happened in their classroom and lunch recess. Peer staff will address all incidents that happen in peer. The intervention will consist of identifying the inappropriate behavior, debriefing the student(s) about his/her role, and may include a referral to the administration. Repeated or severe incidents of bullying/intimidation require a mandatory administrative referral. Information concerning any complaints of bullying/intimidation shall be treated confidentially.

Identify if the behavior is bullying and not another infraction. Stop the behavior Meet with student or students separately Review and apply consequences according to school –wide handbook. Make parent contact Arrange for apologies both verbal and written If this is a second offence and/or a serious behavior, document incident on bullying incident report form. Initiate an administrative referral if the is a 2 nd offense and/or the behavior is serious. Administrator will assign consequence and follow up with social worker if necessary.

 STAMP out bullying program  Boys Town  Social Skills groups  Kids At Hope  Ripples Effect  Individual meetings with students  Student Leadership Team  Circle of Friends group

Together students, staff, and parents will work together to promote a safe, respectful and nurturing learning environment for our school.