Personal and Family Living 2.00 Analyze Influences On Family Life

What are your roles?

Balancing Multiple Roles: The key to to balancing work, play and rest is to maintain a balance among them.

Purposes of Family Families provide: – Physical Care – Procreation – Socialization – Emotional Support

Responsibility with in the Home School Age Children – clean own room. – Older children may start dinner or laundry Teens – Each contributes to the total needs of the family. Might have a job to assist with money. Parents – Provide encouragement and teach new skills to children. Everyone's Responsibility – COMMUNICATION. Talk, leave notes, keep a family calendar.

Strong Families have these qualities: Respect Trust Emotional Support Communication Sharing

Types of Families- Family structure refers to the make up of a family group. Nuclear Family consists of a man, woman, and their children. Single-Parent Family is one parent and one or more children. Step Family – When a single parent marries, a stepfamily is born.

Types Continued Extended Family is when other relatives live with their parents and their children. Childless Family- Is a couple without children. Blended Family is a nuclear family in which one or both of the parents have had a previous marriage, and possible children from that marriage.

Types Continued Adoptive Family may be a nuclear, single-parent or blended. The child is not blood related to the parent, but has been adopted legally. Foster Family can be nuclear, single-parent or blended. One or more of the children are not birth children. The child may stay with the family for an extended period of time through special government agencies.

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NUCLEAR FAMILY Mother, Father, and at least one child Advantages or Disadvantages?

SINGLE-PARENT FAMILY Mother OR Father and at least one child Advantages or Disadvantages?

BLENDED FAMILY Single parent marries another person The other person may or may not have children “Stepparents and Stepchildren” Advantages or Disadvantages?

EXTENDED FAMILY Any of previous family structures with additional relatives other than a parent or child Example: Aunt, Grandfather, Cousin Advantages or Disadvantages?

Musician Seal was fostered by this family shown here.

Pros and Cons of Families Type of FamilyAdvantagesDisadvantages NuclearStability, Both parents present, Lack communication, Blended/StepLarger family, more support,Less attention, conflict with new family, no connection, ExtendedMore family together, wisdom, more support, more resources, Crowded, attention, annoyed, more people to care for, share space, Single ParentStronger communication, more attention, less stress? Less support, only one parent influence, financial stress, self sufficient/neglect, AdoptedGet a family!Uncomfortable, dislikes, feel like you don’t belong/left out FosterYou have a home!Move from place to place, less trust, conflict,

We all have differing ROLES families and communities Family Roles Community Roles Son/daughter Brother/sister Babysitter Yard worker Cook Housekeeper Driver Student Employee Team member Friend Girlfriend/boyfriend Volunteer Organization member

How do Families provide socialization?? Socialization – Setting limits and teaching appropriate behaviors, including cultural heritage How did your parents set limits? Your educators?

Family Life Cycle 1. Beginning Stage  Married couple without children 2. Child-Bearing Stage  Couple from birth of first to birth of last child 3. Parenting Stage  Couple with child(ren) 4. Launching Stage  Couple with child(ren) leaving home 5. Mid-Years Stage  Couple with independent child(ren) living away from home. 6. Aging Stage  Couple during retirement until death of both spouses.

Bell Ringer – 5 minutes Get a marker! Students who are: – The oldest child go to the NE corner of room. – The youngest child go to the SE corner. – The middle child go to the SW corner. – The only child go to the NW corner. Each group is to list the advantages and disadvantages of their birth order on the paper using a + / -. Each group will present their findings.

Crisis Is an event or experience that greatly influences people’s lives. Almost ALWAYS causes some type of change. Examples: Unexpected baby, loss of a job, moving to a new home, or death in the family.

Traits of Crises Devastating event which causes a great loss for the entire family. A stressful event that affects the entire family. An event that requires major adjustments by family members. An event that occurs unexpectedly Examples: Unemployment, family violence, substance abuse, death/illness in the family

Skills to Cope with Crises Support System – network of people that the family can turn to during crises. Communicate and cooperate while change is sought. Decide on needs and priorities; help any way you can Don’t be ashamed of your feelings – it’s okay to cry, be angry, or confused.

Family Violence Three types of abuse: – Physical – Emotional – Sexual Abusive family members often have low self esteem, and might feel unloved. Some were abused themselves and cannot deal with their emotions so they turn to aggression.

Substance Abuse -Drug Abuse -Alcoholism/Alcoholics Substance abusers affect the ENTIRE FAMILY and sometimes the family unknowingly enables the user: Codependency is a pattern of unhealthy behaviors that is used by family members to cover up a problem.

Unemployment Downsizing Might be due to a serious illness Communicate and cooperate while a new job is sought. Decide on needs and priority…help in any way possible. Anyone have a part-time job?

Serious Illness Emotionally draining to watch one suffer. Anxiety awaiting the outcome. Physical care at home is tiresome. High costs of medical needs can stress us! Seek help from a support group, friends, spiritual ties, or just learn more about the illness!

Death Is a part of the life cycle and we must accept death as a reality of life. Feelings might range from sadness to anger to guilt to emptiness. (The grieving process) Ask for support, talk to someone, cry without shame, and recall the happy times. How would that person want you to live your life?

The final word… “In a united family, happiness springs of itself.” - Chinese Proverb “You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.” –Desmond Tutu

Family Crises Pyramid Death Crisis Support Violence Alcoholic Alcoholism Sexual Abuse Unemployment Physical Abuse Emotional Abuse Physical Neglect Emotional Neglect