BULLYING FCCLA STOP the Violence Delaware State Police

FCCLA (Family, Career and Community Leaders of America) STOP the Violence Program (Students Taking On Prevention) the Violence program empowers youth with attitudes, skills, and resources in order to recognize, report, and reduce youth violence.

The Golden Rule “Treat others the way you want to be treated” “Treat others the way you want to be treated”

The Universality of the Golden Rule in the World Religions Christianity All things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye so to them; for this is the law and the prophets. Matthew 7:1 Confucianism Do not do to others what you would not like yourself. Then there will be no resentment against you, either in the family or in the state. Analects 12:2 Buddhism Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful. Udana-Varga 5,1 Hinduism This is the sum of duty; do naught onto others what you would not have them do unto you. Mahabharata 5,1517 Islam No one of you is a believer until he desires for his brother that which he desires for himself. Sunnah Judaism What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellowman. This is the entire Law; all the rest is commentary. Talmud, Shabbat 3id Taoism Regard your neighbor’s gain as your gain, and your neighbor’s loss as your own loss. Tai Shang Kan Yin P’ien Zoroastrianism That nature alone is good which refrains from doing another whatsoever is not good for itself. Dadisten-I-dinik, 94,5

Bullying Definition Behavior that is intentional, hurtful and repeated by one or more persons.Behavior that is intentional, hurtful and repeated by one or more persons. Bullied students are teased, harassed, and assaulted verbally or physically.Bullied students are teased, harassed, and assaulted verbally or physically.

Did you know? The word “Bully” used to mean the total opposite of what it means now.The word “Bully” used to mean the total opposite of what it means now. Five hundred years ago, it meant friend, family member or sweetheart.Five hundred years ago, it meant friend, family member or sweetheart.

Two Types of Bullying DirectDirect IndirectIndirect

Direct Physical – hitting, kicking, pushing, stealing, hiding or ruining someone’s things.Physical – hitting, kicking, pushing, stealing, hiding or ruining someone’s things. Making someone do something they don’t want to do. Making someone do something they don’t want to do. Verbal – name calling, teasing, insulting, threats.Verbal – name calling, teasing, insulting, threats.

Indirect Relationship Bullying – gossiping, spreading rumors and lies about someone.Relationship Bullying – gossiping, spreading rumors and lies about someone. Making someone feel left out or rejected.Making someone feel left out or rejected.

Bullying can be... One person making fun of another.One person making fun of another. One person trying to beat up another.One person trying to beat up another. A group of people ganging up against others.A group of people ganging up against others.

Bullying – You Decide? Jennifer recently broke up with her boyfriend Andrew. Andrew is now dating Melissa. Jennifer convinces all of her friends not to speak or hang out with Melissa anymore. Is this bullying?Jennifer recently broke up with her boyfriend Andrew. Andrew is now dating Melissa. Jennifer convinces all of her friends not to speak or hang out with Melissa anymore. Is this bullying?

Bullying – You Decide When John walks in the hallway to his class, Chris repeatedly knocks his books out of his hand everyday. Is this bullying?When John walks in the hallway to his class, Chris repeatedly knocks his books out of his hand everyday. Is this bullying?

How does it make you feel?

Does it have to be a part of growing up? No Each and every person has the right to feel safe in school and in life.Each and every person has the right to feel safe in school and in life.

Characteristics of a Bully A bully… Excited by their bullying behaviorExcited by their bullying behavior Enjoy feelings of power and controlEnjoy feelings of power and control Enjoy causing painEnjoy causing pain Can be a below average, average or above average studentCan be a below average, average or above average student Lack compassion and empathy for their targetsLack compassion and empathy for their targets Can be all shapes and sizesCan be all shapes and sizes

Who is a Target?

Reasons Doesn’t fit inDoesn’t fit in Physically weakPhysically weak MinorityMinority Facial appearanceFacial appearance ClothingClothing EmotionalEmotional OverweightOverweight Good gradesGood grades

Reasons If you usually are alone and don't have many friends.If you usually are alone and don't have many friends. If you don't have a lot of confidence and don't stand up for yourself.If you don't have a lot of confidence and don't stand up for yourself.

Ways to Avoid Future Bullying Don’t bring expensive things or money to school.Don’t bring expensive things or money to school. Hang out with friends.Hang out with friends. Avoid unsupervised areas.Avoid unsupervised areas. Sit near the bus driver on the bus or walk with a teacher to class.Sit near the bus driver on the bus or walk with a teacher to class. Don’t walk alone and avoid places where bullying occurs.Don’t walk alone and avoid places where bullying occurs. Don’t act scared.Don’t act scared. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. – Eleanor Roosevelt “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. – Eleanor Roosevelt

Report, Report, Report Report it to a trusted adult immediately.Report it to a trusted adult immediately. BE A HERO.BE A HERO.

Bystanders Part of the problem not the solution

Be a Hero Encourage other bystanders to help stop the bullying incident by being assertive. Make friends with someone who continually gets picked on. Report bullying or send someone to a trusted adult. You are a key player in stopping bullying.

Report vs Tattling – Is trying to get someone in trouble.Tattling – Is trying to get someone in trouble. – When you report bullying you are helping someone else.Reporting – When you report bullying you are helping someone else.

Reasons The bully is someone others look up to and want to hang out with.The bully is someone others look up to and want to hang out with. They want to “side” with the bully because it makes them feel strong.They want to “side” with the bully because it makes them feel strong. They’re entertained by the bullying.They’re entertained by the bullying.

Reasons They don’t think speaking up will help.They don’t think speaking up will help. They’re afraid that if they say something, the bully will turn on them.They’re afraid that if they say something, the bully will turn on them.

Some things you can say if someone is getting bullied.

Ask Yourself These Questions Does it make you feel better to hurt other people or take their things?Does it make you feel better to hurt other people or take their things? Are you bigger and stronger than other people your age?Are you bigger and stronger than other people your age? Do you sometimes use your size and strength to get your way?Do you sometimes use your size and strength to get your way?

Have you been bullied by someone in the past and feel like you have to make up for doing the same thing to others?Have you been bullied by someone in the past and feel like you have to make up for doing the same thing to others? Do you avoid thinking about how other people might feel if you say or do hurtful things to them?Do you avoid thinking about how other people might feel if you say or do hurtful things to them? Ask Yourself These Questions

If you are a bully, here are some ways to stop Apologize to people that you have bullied, and follow it up by being friendly.Apologize to people that you have bullied, and follow it up by being friendly. They might not trust you right away, but eventually they will see that you have changed.They might not trust you right away, but eventually they will see that you have changed.

More ways to If you are having a hard time feeling good about yourself, explore ways to boost your self-esteem. (Sports)If you are having a hard time feeling good about yourself, explore ways to boost your self-esteem. (Sports) If you feel like you’re having trouble controlling your feelings, especially anger, talk to a school counselor about your feelings.If you feel like you’re having trouble controlling your feelings, especially anger, talk to a school counselor about your feelings.

The Golden Rule “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”

FCCLA Compliment Cards One thing that CHHS students are encouraged to do is make a compliment card and send to another student in the school. Write encouraging words to express your appreciation for others.

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