Respecting Others

Introduction: Student activity: How I behave reflects the kind of person I am. Who I am determines how I behave.

Our behavior is decided by the environment Objective (by studies)and subjective(self esteem) Aspect of philosophy, Behavior influenced by multiple factors We are individual and we exist,

Introduction: Student activity: How I behave reflects who I am. Who I am determines how I behave. The Story: The Treasure

Selfish, greedy, false, hypocrisy, self- centered Respect, love for parents/father,kind, responsible, honest

Discuss: What character qualities did the sons in this story demonstrate? What kind of qualities should they have demonstrated?

Meaning of respect: “Respect means showing that you place a high value on another person by how you speak about them, how you treat them or by how you treat something that is an important part of their life.

Opposite of respect: Disrespect Can you think of ways that people show disrespect for others?

Opposite of respect: Disrespect Can you think of ways that people show disrespect for others? Examples: Using my possessions without permission or damaging things I have loaned to them, ridiculing my opinions, criticizing my friends, invading my privacy, poking or otherwise touching me without permission or pressuring me to compromise my values and standards.

I.The “Golden Rule”

“Do to others as you would have them do to you.”

I.The “Golden Rule” “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” “As we act responsibly and treat others with respect, they begin to trust us and give us the respect we desire.”

II.Defining respect in four areas

A.Ourselves

II.Defining respect in four areas A.Ourselves 1.Taking care of your personal appearance

II.Defining respect in four areas A.Ourselves 1.Taking care of your personal appearance 2.Stating your opinion even if it is different from your friends’ opinions.

B.Others

1.Accepting your friends’ right to have opinions that are different from yours.

B.Others 1.Accepting your friends’ right to have opinions that are different from yours. 2.Never touching someone in a way that is uncomfortable or painful to them.

C.Learning

1.Completing assignments on time.

C.Learning 1.Completing assignments on time. 2.Paying attention to the teacher and to other students when they are talking.

D.Community

1.Volunteering for projects that will help your community.

D.Community 1.Volunteering fro projects that will help your community. 2.Not littering or writing graffiti.

III.Boundaries

A.Clear boundaries are important in all human relationships.

III.Boundaries A.Clear boundaries are important in all human relationships. Two rules:

III.Boundaries A.Clear boundaries are important in all human relationships. Two rules: 1.Respect the boundaries of others

2.Take the responsibility for what is inside your own boundaries. If you have healthy boundaries, you know who you are, and you have respect for the boundaries of others.

B.“Boundaries” experiment: Understanding the concept of boundaries.

C.Analyzing our boundaries - In which position were you most comfortable? - Which was the most uncomfortable? - Why?

1.Physical boundaries (distance, hugging, kissing)

2.Social boundaries (the kinds of people we like to be with)

1.Physical boundaries (distance, hugging, kissing) 2.Social boundaries (the kinds of people we like to be with) 3.Speech boundaries (language we don’t like, things we dislike people to say to us)

4.Group boundaries (the number of people we want to be with for a long time)

5.Possession boundaries (what we are comfortable sharing or lending)

D.Boundaries: Appropriate levels of strength

1. Too weak

D.Boundaries: Appropriate levels of strength 1. Too weak 2.Too rigid

People with boundaries that are too weak may need to develop a greater respect for themselves. People with boundaries that are too strong may need to develop a greater respect for others.

IV.Conclusion Make a list of character qualities that you want to develop in your life. You might choose from the following list: TrustworthyLoyal IntegrityPolite HonestCaring and kind Keeps promisesGood citizen Honors commitmentsFair CourteousHelps others