1 Self-Esteem & Personal Standards

Essential Question What conditions influence a person’s self-esteem and how do personal standards influence people to make healthy choices? What conditions influence a person’s self-esteem and how do personal standards influence people to make healthy choices?

Self-Esteem The feeling people have about themselves

Elements of Self-Esteem Recognize & accept one’s strengths Recognize & accept one’s strengths Achieve a sense of belonging Achieve a sense of belonging Develop a sense of power Develop a sense of power Have and imitate positive role models Have and imitate positive role models

Improving Self-Esteem Create friendships that help you feel good about yourself Create friendships that help you feel good about yourself Celebrate your strengths Celebrate your strengths Improve your weaknesses Improve your weaknesses Set challenging but realistic goals Set challenging but realistic goals Choose positive role models Choose positive role models

Improving your Self-Esteem cont.. Take care of your physical health Take care of your physical health Make decisions based on your own beliefs Make decisions based on your own beliefs Realize that you control your own actions Realize that you control your own actions Keep a positive attitude Keep a positive attitude

Positive Self-Talk Another avenue to improve self- esteem Another avenue to improve self- esteem Internal dialogue: consists of positive and negative messages Internal dialogue: consists of positive and negative messages Ability to monitor our self-talk Ability to monitor our self-talk “Thought Stopping”: technique to stop negative thoughts “Thought Stopping”: technique to stop negative thoughts

Personal Standards A reference point used to judge people and events A reference point used to judge people and events

Standards Developed through experiences with family, peers and role models Developed through experiences with family, peers and role models Development is on-going task Development is on-going task Mental health is compromised when decisions do not reflect personal standards. Mental health is compromised when decisions do not reflect personal standards. Can be difficult decision if standards of behavior are in conflict. Can be difficult decision if standards of behavior are in conflict.

Scenario #1 You want to be on the debate team and in the band, but you realize you won’t have enough time for both on top of your after-school job. The debate team will help build skills you will use when you go to law school. The band is more fun and you love music. You choose the band. You want to be on the debate team and in the band, but you realize you won’t have enough time for both on top of your after-school job. The debate team will help build skills you will use when you go to law school. The band is more fun and you love music. You choose the band.

Scenario #2 Your best friend’s grandmother died, and her funeral is today. Another friend invites you to work a temporary job that will pay you $15.00 an hour. You decide to go to the funeral. Your best friend’s grandmother died, and her funeral is today. Another friend invites you to work a temporary job that will pay you $15.00 an hour. You decide to go to the funeral.

Scenario #3 You have only $ You promised to pay back your friend who loaned you $10.00 last week. Your homeroom teacher is taking up a collection for a student whose family lost everything in a house fire. You keep the money to pay back your friend. You have only $ You promised to pay back your friend who loaned you $10.00 last week. Your homeroom teacher is taking up a collection for a student whose family lost everything in a house fire. You keep the money to pay back your friend.