No Talking! Ms. Bagnall means it… I will give you a responsibility slip. You are to share this slip with NO ONE! Carry out your responsibilities without talking or telling others what you are doing. In the end, clean your lab well! Get 2 wash clothes to help. Also, I expect you to sweep.

How hard was it for your to know what the other people in your group were supposed to be doing, without talking? How did you let other group members know when it was your turn to do something, without talking? Were you surprised that you successfully made the treat together, without talking?

For example: A woman’s "Interested" body language: * Pouting lips * Hair flipping * Glances * Pushing hair behind the ears * The use of aroma (perfume) *Excessive smiling/laughing A man’s "Interested" body language: * Holding eye contact longer than necessary * Accidental contact with a girl * Arranging the tie or sleeves * Keeping hands in front of the pants with the thumbs locked inside the belt * Fiddling with something * Moving in closer A woman's/man’s "Not Interested" body language: * Yawns * Frowns * Sneers * Hands staying in pockets * Arms staying folded across the chest Did you know … 70% of the time, a woman ’ s nonverbal communication initiates dating?

Types of Communication The easiest and most natural communication to use. (You’ve been using it since you were a child!) It is a very immature method of communication and the least effective to use when you are an adult.  Characterized by: Self-centered motives Not listening Whining Name Calling Verbal abuse Giving orders Interrupting Acting out of Control Yelling Topping Throwing Tantrums

Watch these short video clips showing examples of child-like communication and topping!

Has NOTHING to do with actually being a parent! In fact, two- year olds are experts at this! This type of communication tries to direct others’ behavior. It is effective only because you usually get someone to comply or act a certain way. One way, or dictatorial, communication. No listening involved!  Characterized by: Giving Instructions Directing Not Listening Demanding Ordering Punishing

This is the highest level of communication. It is the most effective and desired! It does take time to learn and use this type of communication. It does not happen over night. It not only involves communicating, but ACTIVE LISTENING as well!  Characterized by: Open, two-way communication Both parties take responsibility for comments or actions Those involved remain calm Both show respect for the other’s feelings and opinions Both want to solve the problems with a “win-win” attitude Both try to control strong emotions while communicating and discussing issues

This is the way a person expresses themselves through movement, posture and facial expression. It is possible to send one type of verbal message and at the same time, a very different message through body language. Non-Verbal Communication is very powerful and can often be misinterpreted.

Watch this short video clip showing an example of non-verbal communication!

Constructive Communication Techniques Constructive communication contributes a meaningful exchange of ideas and/or leads to understanding  Examples: Giving positive or encouraging messages Sending clear, concise messages Keeping the confidences of other people Using tact: (communicating something sensitive without hurting or offending) Asking Questions Being honest and open Speaking with respect Being a good listener

Destructive Communication Techniques Destructive communication “tears down” others and discourages open, adult-like communication.  Examples: Insults, harassment, teasing Threatening Lying, blaming, accusing “You-Messages” Swearing Sarcasm (When a person says one message, but nonverbal communication and tone of voice says another) Gossip Topping Not Listening

What you are saying with your mouth may be different than what you’re saying with your body language. People often times have trouble COMMUNICATING because they can’t understand someone else’s perspective. Even a small twist of perspective can COMMUNICATE something completely different…