The value of shame n Shame - “A painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety which appears in the countenance by blushing.”

The value of shame n Shame - “A painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety which appears in the countenance by blushing.” n It is better to feel the pain of our conscience before an action, that after.

The value of shame n Our shame is a product of our teaching and experience, either good or bad!

The value of shame n Our shame is a product of our teaching and experience, either good or bad!

The value of shame n (Rom 6:21-23) - “What fruit did you have then in the things of which you are now ashamed? For the end of those things is death.”

The value of shame n Why we need a study of shame.

The value of shame n Why we need a study of shame. n The concept of shame is rapidly being lost.

The value of shame n Why we need a study of shame. n The concept of shame is rapidly being lost. n Even the world acknowledges a place for it: “You ought to be ashamed!”

The value of shame n Why we need a study of shame. n The concept of shame is rapidly being lost. n Even the world acknowledges a place for it: “You ought to be ashamed!” n Sadly there are those who teach us to be ashamed of good things.

The value of shame n Why we need a study of shame. n The concept of shame is rapidly being lost. n Even the world acknowledges a place for it: “You ought to be ashamed!” n Sadly there are those who teach us to be ashamed of good things. n (Ex. Ridicule of morals on TV talk show.)

The value of shame n Isaiah 5: Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who put darkness for light, and light for darkness; Who put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! 21 Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes, And prudent in their own sight!

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Because of the knowledge we have of right and wrong.

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Because of the knowledge we have of right and wrong. n It is very common for new converts to say: “I never knew that it was wrong!”

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Because of the knowledge we have of right and wrong. n It is very common for new converts to say: “I never knew that it was wrong!” n Because of a lack of knowledge, they had no shame.

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Because of the knowledge of others.

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Because of the knowledge of others. n The knowledge of other people.

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Because of the knowledge of others. n The knowledge of other people. –Many things are not shameful until others are present or have knowledge.

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Because of the knowledge of others. n The knowledge of other people. –Many things are not shameful until others are present or have knowledge. –Women - Clothing, housekeeping.

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Because of the knowledge of others. n The knowledge of other people. –Many things are not shameful until others are present or have knowledge. –Women - Clothing, housekeeping. –Men - dirty car, foul-up at work.

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n The knowledge of God. (2 Cor 7:9-10)

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n 2 Corinthians 7: Now I rejoice, not that you were made sorry, but that your sorrow led to repentance. For you were made sorry in a godly manner, that you might suffer loss from us in nothing. 10 For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death.

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n The knowledge of God. (2 Cor 7:9-10) n Example: Someone apologizing to men for taking God’s name in vain.

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n The knowledge of God. (2 Cor 7:9-10) n Example: Someone apologizing to men for taking God’s name in vain. n How can we develop a greater knowledge of God’s presence? (2 Pt 1:5-7)

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n 1 Peter 1:5-7 - But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, 6to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness, 7to godliness brotherly kindness, and to brotherly kindness love.

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Why do some men not feel shame?

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Why do some men not feel shame? –By continued wrongdoing the conscience is destroyed. (Zeph 3:5)

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Zephaniah 3:5 (NKJV) - The LORD is righteous in her midst, He will do no unrighteousness. Every morning He brings His justice to light; He never fails, But the unjust knows no shame.

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Why do some men not feel shame? –By continued wrongdoing the conscience is destroyed. (Zeph 3:5) –By sinking deeper into sin. (1 Tim 4:2; Eph 4:19)

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Why do some men not feel shame?

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n 1 Timothy 4:2 (NKJV) speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron,

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Ephesians 4:19 (NKJV) who, being past feeling, have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Why do some men not feel shame? –By continued wrongdoing the conscience is destroyed. (Zeph 3:5) –By sinking deeper into sin. (1 Tim 4:2; Eph 4:19) – Do you remember the first time that: You had a social drink? Smoked the first cigarette? Told a lie? Engaged in immorality? Ex. Shoplifting

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n Why do some men not feel shame? –By continued wrongdoing the conscience is destroyed. (Zeph 3:5) –By sinking deeper into sin. (1 Tim 4:2; Eph 4:19) – Do you remember the first time that: You had a social drink? Smoked the first cigarette? Told a lie? Engaged in immorality? Ex. Shoplifting –Have you ever asked of someone: “How did he/she get like that?”

Why Do Men Feel Shame? n The conscience is like an alarm clock. How many no longer hear it?

How the conscience will affect our dress n Our dress should reflect a good conscience.

How the conscience will affect our dress n Our dress should reflect a good conscience. n (1 Tim 2:9-10) KJV "In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; {10} But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works."

How the conscience will affect our dress n Modest - (kosmios) - of good behaviour, well arranged, seemly.

How the conscience will affect our dress n Modest - (kosmios) - of good behaviour, well arranged, seemly. n Shamefacedness - (aidos) - perhaps..through the idea of downcast eyes; a sense of shame or honor, modesty, bashfulness, reverence.

How the conscience will affect our dress n Modest - (kosmios) - of good behaviour, well arranged, seemly. n Shamefacedness - (aidos) - perhaps..through the idea of downcast eyes; a sense of shame or honor, modesty, bashfulness, reverence. n sobriety - (sophrosune) 1) soundness of mind 2) self-control

How the conscience will affect our dress n Nakedness should cause the painful emotion of shame!

How the conscience will affect our dress n Nakedness should cause the painful emotion of shame! –(Gen 2:25) - Adam and Eve were naked when they had no clothes.

How the conscience will affect our dress n Genesis 2:25 (NKJV) And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

How the conscience will affect our dress n Nakedness should cause the painful emotion of shame! –(Gen 2:25) - Adam and Eve were naked when they had no clothes. –(Gen 3:7, 10-11) - They were still naked when they made the equivalent of men’s swimming trunks!

How the conscience will affect our dress n Genesis 3:7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings.

How the conscience will affect our dress n Genesis 3:10-11 So he said, “I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.” 11 And He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?”

How the conscience will affect our dress n Nakedness should cause the painful emotion of shame! –(Gen 2:25) - Adam and Eve were naked when they had no clothes. –(Gen 3:7, 10-11) - They were still naked when they made the equivalent of men’s swimming trunks! –(Gen 3:21) - They were no longer naked when God made them “tunics of skin”.

How the conscience will affect our dress n Genesis 3:21 (NKJV) Also for Adam and his wife the LORD God made tunics of skin, and clothed them.

How the conscience will affect our dress n These are defined as: "generally with sleeves, coming down to the knees" (v. 21; Gesenius, Hebrew & Chaldee Lexicon, 420).

How the conscience will affect our dress n Nakedness should cause the painful emotion of shame!

How the conscience will affect our dress n Nakedness should cause the painful emotion of shame! –These are defined as: "generally with sleeves, coming down to the knees" (v. 21; Gesenius, Hebrew & Chaldee Lexicon, 420).

How the conscience will affect our dress n Nakedness should cause the painful emotion of shame! –These are defined as: "generally with sleeves, coming down to the knees" (v. 21; Gesenius, Hebrew & Chaldee Lexicon, 420). –“God replaced their shorts with garments covering from the shoulders down to the knees to cover the shame of their nakedness.”

How the conscience will affect our dress n (Ex 28:41-42; Isa 47:2-3) - God was very concerned with improper clothing that still left one naked! How much was covered? Look at the passages!

How the conscience will affect our dress n Exodus 28:41-42 (NKJV) So you shall put them on Aaron your brother and on his sons with him. You shall anoint them, consecrate them, and sanctify them, that they may minister to Me as priests. 42 And you shall make for them linen trousers to cover their nakedness; they shall reach from the waist to the thighs.

How the conscience will affect our dress n Isaiah 47:2-3 (NKJV) Take the millstones and grind meal. Remove your veil, Take off the skirt, Uncover the thigh, Pass through the rivers. 3 Your nakedness shall be uncovered, Yes, your shame will be seen; I will take vengeance,

How the conscience will affect our dress n (Ex 28:41-42; Isa 47:2-3) - God was very concerned with improper clothing that still left one naked! How much was covered? Look at the passages! n God has also spoken on the length of hair for women and men. (1 Cor 11:14-15)

How the conscience will affect our dress n 1 Corinthians 11: Does not even nature itself teach you that if a man has long hair, it is a dishonor to him? 15 But if a woman has long hair, it is a glory to her; for her hair is given to her for a covering.

How the conscience will affect our dress n 1 Corinthians 11:6 (NKJV) n For if a woman is not covered, let her also be shorn. But if it is shameful for a woman to be shorn or shaved, let her be covered.

How the conscience will affect our actions n In how we speak about and to our brethren. (Jude 1:10; 2 Pt 2:12)

How the conscience will affect our actions n Jude 1:10 (NKJV) n 10But these speak evil of whatever they do not know; and whatever they know naturally, like brute beasts, in these things they corrupt themselves. n 2 Peter 2:12 (NKJV) n 12But these, like natural brute beasts made to be caught and destroyed, speak evil of the things they do not understand, and will utterly perish in their own corruption,

How the conscience will affect our actions n Jude 1:10 (NKJV) - But these speak evil of whatever they do not know; and whatever they know naturally, like brute beasts, in these things they corrupt themselves.

How the conscience will affect our actions n 2 Peter 2:12 (NKJV) n But these, like natural brute beasts made to be caught and destroyed, speak evil of the things they do not understand, and will utterly perish in their own corruption,

How the conscience will affect our actions n In how we speak about and to our brethren. (Jude 1:10; 2 Pt 2:12) –Why does God call them “brute beasts?” They have no shame!

How the conscience will affect our actions n In how we speak about and to our brethren. (Jude 1:10; 2 Pt 2:12) –Why does God call them “brute beasts?” They have no shame! –Public debates can be good or bad. What if we succeed in destroying the conscience in how we speak of others?

How the conscience will affect our actions n In how we speak about and to our brethren. (Jude 1:10; 2 Pt 2:12) –Why does God call them “brute beasts?” They have no shame! –Public debates can be good or bad. What if we succeed in destroying the conscience in how we speak of others? –Consider the effect of and discussion groups.

How the conscience will affect our actions

n In dating we will avoid those things that destroy restraint. (2 Tim 2:22)

How the conscience will affect our actions n 2 Timothy 2:22 (NKJV) n Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

How the conscience will affect our actions n In dating we will avoid those things that destroy restraint. (2 Tim 2:22) –What is a proper display of affection and what is that which stimulates lusts?

How the conscience will affect our actions n In dating we will avoid those things that destroy restraint. (2 Tim 2:22) –What is a proper display of affection and what is that which stimulates lusts? –What if you date someone who does not have a good conscience? Do not be surprised to be tested again to more and more compromise. (2 Tim 3:6-7)

How the conscience will affect our actions n 2 Timothy 3:6-7 (NKJV) n For of this sort are those who creep into households and make captives of gullible women loaded down with sins, led away by various lusts, 7 always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.

How the conscience will affect our actions n In dating we will avoid those things that destroy restraint. (2 Tim 2:22) –What is a proper display of affection and what is that which stimulates lusts? –What if you date someone who does not have a good conscience? Do not be surprised to be tested again to more and more compromise. (2 Tim 3:6-7) –Why not date a Christian who also has a heart for God?

How the conscience will affect our actions n This is why Christians avoid the public dance, mixed swimming and such things.

How the conscience will affect our actions n We will tell the truth. (Col 3:9; Eph 4:25)

How the conscience will affect our actions n Colossians 3:9 (NKJV) n Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds,

How the conscience will affect our actions n Ephesians 4:25 (NKJV) n Therefore, putting away lying, “Let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor,” for we are members of one another.

How the conscience will affect our actions n We will make things right! (Mt 5:22-24)

How the conscience will affect our actions n Matthew 5: But I say to you that whoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment. And whoever says to his brother, ‘Raca!’ shall be in danger of the council. But whoever says, ‘You fool!’ shall be in danger of hell fire.

How the conscience will affect our actions n 23 Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.

How the conscience will affect our actions n Are you looking to let God rule in your heart? (Mt 5:8)

How the conscience will affect our actions n Matthew 5:8 - Blessed are the pure in heart, For they shall see God.

How the conscience will affect our actions n We need each other to help test our hearts. (Heb 10:23-25)

How the conscience will affect our actions n Hebrews 10: Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful. 24 And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, 25 not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.

How the conscience will affect our actions n Above all we need to bare our hearts to God and ask for help. (Lk 1:6; Rev 3:2)

How the conscience will affect our actions n Luke 1:6 - And they were both righteous before God, walking in all the commandments and ordinances of the Lord blameless.

How the conscience will affect our actions n Revelation 3:2 (NKJV) n Be watchful, and strengthen the things which remain, that are ready to die, for I have not found your works perfect before God.