WHEN SOPHIE GETS ANGRY- REALLY, REALLY ANGRY ABC CHAMPION YEAR LESSON #4 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

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Getting Started Review last month’s reading experience: Ask students to recall what being BIG means… Consider telling a personal story about how you did something BIG since the last class meeting (i.e. helped the environment, helped a friend, helped yourself: exercised, etc.) Ask students if anyone tried anything to be BIG since the last meeting Ask students if they noticed anyone else being BIG (i.e. classmate, parent) 3| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Introducing the Book Choose your option! 1.Shake It Up! Discuss what it feels like when emotions get mixed- up and we feel like we are about to explode! 2.Orchestra of Emotions We each have many kinds of emotions. Like the orchestra’s conductor needs to balance each instrument, we need to find balance and “direct” our own emotions. All of our emotions contribute to the masterpiece of “You”. 4| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Introducing and Reading the Book When Sophie Gets Angry- Really, Really Angry… 5| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Discussing the Book: Choose How You Will React… Learn to recognize your many feelings. Stop and Take 5! Remove yourself from the situation. Take a few deep breaths. Count to SLOWLY. Think, reconsider, and choose a safe way to behave. Stay calm and in control. Get active! Talk about your feelings with a friend or caring adult. 6| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Discussing the Book: Digital Citizenship Extending the conversation… In the book, Sophie was busy playing when her sister grabbed Gorilla. That was the start of Sophie’s red, hot ROAR! Online, we can be busy playing when something upsetting can start our own red, hot ROAR! How are intense emotions online the same and/or different than in-person? What are some ways to handle intense emotional online situations? 7| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Discussing the Book: Digital Citizenship If something online really upsets you... Stop, Block and Tell (from stopcyberbullying.org) STOP! Don't do anything. Take 5! to calm down. Block! Block the cyberbully or limit all communications to those on your buddy list. and Tell! Tell a trusted adult (Grandma Rose). You don't have to face this alone! 8| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Empathy Skill Building: For youth Taking the lesson from the classroom to the playground School Wide Friendship Plan Reconsider before you respond: A strategy for regulating emotional responses by changing how you think about a behavior or situation before reacting, in order to decrease the irritating situation’s impact on your emotions. When you reconsider, you actually change how you think about a situation before you respond. 9| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Empathy Skill Building: For youth Taking the lesson from the classroom to the playground Activity Prompts: Reconsider This Role Play Suggestions 1.You’re walking down the hall when someone pushes you from behind. You smash into the wall, and fall to the ground. When you look up, the person who pushed you is laughing. 2.You are reading in the library when someone comes from behind you and takes your book. You are trying to get it back when the librarian orders you to go to the office, no questions asked. 3.You are shooting hoops at lunch when a basketball comes at you and hits you in the head. The person who threw the ball comes up and says, “Sorry, accident.” It is another student that you do not get along with, and they are smiling. 10| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Empathy Skill Building: For youth Taking the lesson from the classroom to the playground 11| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE Will YOU try it, today?

Empathy Skill Building: For adults Controlling Emotions Takes Energy… Science tells us that controlling your emotions requires a lot of mental energy. Reconsidering our automatic/impulsive reaction takes effort and intention! It can be exhausting! This is because positive emotion requires creative thinking- that is tough brain work! Small, positive mood changing strategies like spending time with friends, watching a funny show, meditating, taking a walk or climbing a tree can restore your capacity to control impulsive behaviors. Doing active, enjoyable things that refresh you actually makes you, and your brain, better able to handle stress in creative, healthy ways! Discussion: When you feel tired in controlling your emotions, what are some positive mood changing strategies you can use? 12| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Empathy Skill Building: For adults Will YOU try it, today? It takes a lot of mental energy to handle the stress of parenting, volunteering, etc. What helps you to reconsider when facing stressful situations? –Talk it out, with yourself! Try to apply a hopeful, “Growth Mindset”. You can change your own attitude and outlook! –Consider other reasons for behaviors or situations. –Make active efforts to improve your own mood. 13| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Activity Ideas See Reading Guide, pages 3-8 See Outline, pages | When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Activity Ideas: Deep Breathing- Mindfulness Meditation Materials: Computer with projection system to show video: Guide To Deep Breathing: (3:39 minutes) SeOOohttps:// SeOOo Directions: Ask Students if they have ever watched babies/puppies/kittens breathe. They breathe with their whole body. Today they are going to practice deep breathing. You can do this anytime you feel you need to gain control of your emotions. It can be when you are mad, worried, feeling stress from life, etc. Watch and participate in the practice of deep breathing on the video. Debrief: Ask students to describe how their body feels after practicing deep breathing. Challenge: This month, practice deep breathing as a way to prepare yourself in advance for stressful situations, like tests or a big swim meet. Use deep breathing to calm yourself when an unexpected emotional situation pops up. During intense emotional situations, notice your body’s reactions. Choose to deescalate the intensity of the situation by using deep breathing. 15| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

3-Minute Huddle Three Minute Huddle (Led by ABC Volunteer) As the director of your emotions, you have the power to control how you react to strong, out-of- control emotions. Ask everyone to close his or her eyes for a moment. Ask them to think about ways Sophie directed her anger into calmer, controlled feelings. Have them open their eyes and pair-share with someone sitting next to them one way they will be in charge of their feelings. Ask two or three volunteers to share their ideas with the class. 16| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

3-Minute Huddle: Empathy Skill You can reconsider and feel better! 1. Talk it out, with yourself! Use a “Growth Mindset”. You can change your own attitude and outlook! Consider other reasons for behaviors or situations. 2. Make active efforts to improve your own mood. 17| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Next Steps: Communication Parent Letter- Strengthen the Home and School connection by sending the parent letter, every month. Staff Letter and Resources- Strengthen your relationship with the teacher by offering ABC Resources and the staff letter, every month. 18| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Next Steps: School Wide Extension Ideas Cool Down Spot Promote self-calming techniques, like deep breathing, at designated spots on campus Recruit volunteers (both adults and youth) to be available to “coach” youth on using their lid. Ask youth for their ideas on ABC tools to practice at Cool Down Spots. 19| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Closing Comments Reading Schedule Sign-in Reporting Procedure Planning Support Next Meeting Date School-wide Calendar and Asset Building opportunities More… 20| When Sophie Gets Angry | ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE