Caring for Aging Parents “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor your father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth.” (Ephesians 6:1-3) Week 11 | Preparing for a Funeral| May 17, 2015

Preparing for a Funeral May 17, 2015  Pre-planning  Knowing and honoring loved one’s wishes  Considering the needs of family and friends  Organ and body donor decisions (does parent want to be a donor; if so, in what capacity)  Options (burial, cremation, closed casket, open casket, visitation)  Additional considerations for out-of-state burials  Services (location, officiate, pall bearers, etc.)  What must be done upon death and who will do it (organ and body donation services, death certificate, contact service providers, burial clothing and jewelry, “in lieu of flowers”, obituary, etc.)  After the funeral (insurance, Social Security Administration and other government agencies, notification of doctors, thank you notes, transition of financial accounts, transition of non-financial accounts, etc.)  Support groups Caring for Aging Parents 2

Our Faith “You learn more at a funeral than at a feast— After all, that’s where we all end up. We might discover something from it.” (Ecclesiastes 7:2, The Message) Caring for Aging Parents 3

Our Prayer today  Pray that we live our lives such that days of mourning are also days of celebration.  Pray that as we prepare for and experience the death of a loved one, we remember our purpose, our eternal home, and that day of great reunion Caring for Aging Parents 4

Comments from our panelists… Caring for Aging Parents 5

Sally Gray Sally was born & raised in Chattanooga and is a graduate of Tennessee Tech University in Cookeville. She has one son, and a one year old grandson. In Chattanooga she had an "extremely" glamorous career at the food stamp office. When she moved to Nashville 13 years ago; she wanted to do something that helped all families. She has seen first hand over & over the positive effects that pre- planning has had on the loved ones who are left behind. Sally has been impressed by the high standards of the staff at Harpeth Hills Funeral Home & Memory Gardens & plans on working there as long as she is physically able to do so. Caring for Aging Parents

Pre-Planning Why Bother? 1. Eliminates Doubt 2. Make Decisions Together 3. Removes Future Burden 4. Freezes Cost/Eliminates Emotional Overspending 5. Peace of Mind How do I do it? 1. Record Your Personal Information and Wishes 2. Select Your Cemetery Plans and Design Permanent Memorials. 3. Create Your Ceremony and Make Merchandise Selections. Caring for Aging Parents

Knowing and Honoring a Loved One’s Wishes An Intentional Plan Open Dialogue Secure Location (i.e., fireproof safe at home ) Please Visit Us Online at Caring for Aging Parents8

Considering the Needs of Family and Friends Visitation, Service, and Reception Permanent Placement No one wants to be forgotten “I took care of these plans myself so that my family wouldn’t have to.” Please Visit Us Online at Caring for Aging Parents9

Carol Austin Carol and her family began Austin Funeral & Cremation Services, which is located in Brentwood, eight years ago. She has worked in the funeral industry for the past twenty years. Carol holds licenses as both a funeral director and insurance agent, roles which enable her to assist families not only at a time of loss, but also in pre-planning their funerals. She is also the proud mother of twin daughters, Kate and Liz Caring for Aging Parents 10

Carol Austin “Your Life was a blessing, your Memory a treasure. You are Loved beyond words and Missed beyond measure.” “Let our advance worrying become advance thinking and planning.” Winston Churchill Caring for Aging Parents 11

 Organ and body donor decisions (does parent want to be a donor; if so, in what capacity)  Options (burial, cremation, closed casket, open casket, visitation)  Additional considerations for out-of-state burials Caring for Aging Parents 12

Pam Stephens Licensed funeral director and co-owner of Williamson Memorial Funeral Home & Cremation Services & Williamson Memorial Gardens in Franklin, TN and Spring Hill Memorial Park, Funeral Home & Cremation Services in Spring Hill, TN. Past President of the Tennessee Funeral Directors Association. Past President with the Cemetery Association of Tennessee. Past President of the Southern Cemetery & Funeral Association which included sixteen states. Board of Director for Franklin Synergy Bank. Board of Director for the Williamson Medical Center Foundation. Member of Franklin Noon Rotary Club and member of Mt. Carmel Cumberland Presbyterian Church in Franklin and attend Knoxville First Cumberland Presbyterian Church in Knoxville. Pam joined the family firm in 1995 after a fifteen year career as a Certified Personnel Consultant. Daughter of Clyde and Nellie Stephens who were very active in TFDA for many years. Married to Tim Kalthoff, mother of two, Matt Martin and Mandi (Steadman) Marlin; Mimi to grandchildren, Stirlin, Matti and Langley; “Smom” to Tim’s family, Matthew, Jeff & Judson Kalthoff, Shannon (Clay) Carver and Mimi to Camilla, Marghee & Trey Caring for Aging Parents 13

Pam Stephens May I speak each word as if it is my last word…and, walk each step as my final one! If my life should end today…let this be my best day! (from: “The Valley of Vision”) Caring for Aging Parents 14

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