LOVE

Love vs. Infatuation

Love is …….. * Grows slowly, beginning with friendship * Lasts over a long period of time * Involves the entire character and personality of the partner * The relationship grows and matures as time passes * Little jealousy—accepting of one another's feelings * Work harder at assigned tasks * Less emotional and moody—more happy and kind * Opinions of other people are not as important * Fun times and friendship are more important than a physical relationship * Share common interests * Enjoy being together without need of expensive entertainment * Trust and have confidence in self and in the relationship * Trust the partner * There is no rush to make decisions—the future is planned with confidence * More vital, more energy * See life realistically

Infatuation is ………. Is common during teen years * Grows rapidly—love at first sight * Does not last long * Occurs shortly after breaking up with someone—known as “on the rebound” * Is centered on a few admired traits in the other person * Is often based on physical traits or feelings * Does not see or acknowledge the other person's weaknesses * The relationship stays the same for a long time—does not go anywhere * Selfish and possessive of the other person—jealous * Disagreements are common -- fighting * Daydream—cannot concentrate on necessary tasks * May lose your appetite * Is easily influenced by the person they are infatuated with * Creates a selfish relationship—"How can he/she help me get what I want?" * Other people's opinions matter too much * May be based on physical enjoyment–a couple who finds themselves bored without physical stimulation * Feelings of insecurity * Lack of trust in partner * Feels a real need to marry * Causes lack of ambition and to disregard problems

ROMANTIC LOVE Also known as “puppy love”, it is an exaggerated form of love.

SEXUAL LOVE The intimate expression of love. This type of love is best saved for a committed married couple

PRAGMATIC LOVE A rational reasoning kind of love. Arranged marriage

PLATONIC LOVE spiritual and intellectual relationship between a man and a woman. Non sexual

COMPANIONSHIP LOVE. Typically found in good friendships

ALTRUISTIC LOVE Selfless love, or concern for the spouse.

MANIC LOVE a crazy, possessive, jealous kind of love.

Unconditional love Showing love towards someone regardless of his or her actions or beliefs

SELF-LOVE a egotistic, narcissistic kind of love.