INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION

 What do you need in order to be happy?  Are there some things we think we need that we really don’t?  What would you give up?

SSelf-Actualization EEsteem LLove and Affection SSafety and Security PPhysiological MASLOW’S HIERARCHY OF NEEDS

SELF-CONCEPT

 Self-Concept– The image of who you think you are  Strengths and weaknesses  Abilities and limits  Social Comparison—  Comparing our reputation to that of others  1-Others’ images of you  2-Social Comparison  3-Your own interpretation/ evaluation SELF-CONCEPT YOU

SELF DISCLOSURE

 Are there some things people are more likely to share with others vs. keep to themselves?

THE JOHARI WINDOW Open SelfBlind Self Hidden Self Unknown Self Not known to selfKnown to self Known to others Not known to others

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

Contact Involvement Intimacy Deterioration Repair Dissolution Exit

CONFLICT

 Who do you fight with?  What do you fight about?  Is fighting good? Bad? Why?

 1. Forces you to examine a problem and work toward a potential solution  2. Allows you to state what you want, and maybe get it!  3. Prevents hostility/ resentments from festering, which can lead to cardstacking! POSITIVE ASPECTS OF CONFLICT

 1. Leads to increased negative regard for the opponent  2. Frequent job conflict leads to a depletion of energy better spent in other areas (job, school…)  3. Leads you to close yourself off from the other individual  Dissolution? NEGATIVE ASPECTS OF CONFLICT

 1. Avoidance and Active Fighting  Physical—walk out, turn up stereo  Non-negotiation—Special type of Avoidance. You refuse to listen or discuss.  2. Force and Talk  Some people don’t want to deal with conflict, but rather, physically force their position onto you  The one who “wins” is the one who exerts the most force CONFLICT MANAGEMENT

 3. Silencers/Facilitating Open Expression  Silencers—Most common one is crying  FOE—Granting other person permission to express themselves freely  4. Gunnysacking  Like cardstacking

 5. Manipulation  Involves avoidance  Person attempts to divert conflict by being especially charming  Tries to weaken you so he/she can make you vulnerable  6. Fighting Below the Belt  Called “Beltlining”  Causes serious injury  Person is unable to absorb the blow