R elational w isdom may be defined as your ability to discern emotions and interests in yourself and others, to interpret them in the light of God’s Word, and to use this insight to manage your responses and relationships constructively.

-Stronger Relationships -Valued Influence -Compelling Witness

Six skills that become habits: 1 God-Awareness is your ability to interpret all of life in the light of God’s character, works, and promises

Six skills that become habits: 2 God-Engagement is your ability to faithfully trust, obey, and imitate God

Six skills that become habits: 3 Self-awareness (humility) is your ability to accurately discern the feelings, desires, beliefs, and interests that are driving you.

Six skills that become habits: 4 Self-engaging (discipline) is your ability to master your thoughts, words, and actions so that they please God and advance his purposes.

become self-engaging R.E.A.D. YOURSELF R ecognize your emotions E valuate their source A nticipate the consequences of following them D irect them on a constructive course “DO A 180”

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self- control; against such things there is no law. 24 And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another. Galatians 5:22-26 Your ability to master your thoughts, words, and actions so that they please God and advance his purposes

24 Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. 25 For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it. 26 For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Matt. 16:24-26 Your ability to master your thoughts, words, and actions so that they please God and advance his purposes

28 So Jesus said to them…“I do nothing on my own authority, but speak just as the Father taught me. 29 …He has not left me alone, for I always do the things that are pleasing to him.” 31 So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, 32 and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:28-32 Your ability to master your thoughts, words, and actions so that they please God and advance his purposes

14 For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. 15 And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again. 16 So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. 17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 2 Cor 5 Your ability to master your thoughts, words, and actions so that they please God and advance his purposes

become self-engaging R.E.A.D. YOURSELF R ecognize your emotions E valuate their source A nticipate the consequences of following them D irect them on a constructive course “DO A 180”

Self engaging: What is the wisest way to act toward myself? What choices do I have? What are their likely consequences? How can I master my thoughts, words, and actions? Is God calling me to confess my sins? What habits do I want to put off? To put on? Who will I trust to hold me accountable? R.E.A.D. YOURSELF

Amazing Grace (My Chains Are Gone) Chris Tomlin | Edwin Othello Excell | John Newton | John P. Rees | Louie Giglio Amazing grace how sweet the sound That saved a wretch like me

I once was lost but now I'm found Was blind but now I see

'Twas grace that taught my heart to fear And grace my fears relieved

How precious did that grace appear The hour I first believed

My chains are gone I've been set free My God my Savior has ransomed me

And like a flood His mercy reigns Unending love Amazing grace

The Lord has promised good to me His word my hope secures

He will my shield and portion be As long as life endures

My chains are gone I've been set free My God my Savior has ransomed me

And like a flood His mercy reigns Unending love Amazing grace

My chains are gone I've been set free My God my Savior has ransomed me

And like a flood His mercy reigns Unending love Amazing grace

The earth shall soon dissolve like snow The sun forbear to shine

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