Being ready for sex Year 9 L.O: To be more confident and comfortable thinking about when is the right time for you to start having sex.

starter What is the average age a girl in the U.K looses her virginity? What is the average age a boy in the U.K looses her virginity? What is the average number of sexual partners a person in the U.K will have in their life time?

How did you do? What is the average age a girl in the U.K looses her virginity? What is the average age a boy in the U.K looses her virginity? What is the average number of sexual partners a person in the U.K will have in their life time? ( this number is increasing)

Task 1 - Watch the clips and think about the following: What pressures do girls face..... What pressures do boys face..... What advice would you give younger girls about the pressures they may face.... What advice would you give younger boys about the pressures they may face.... Do you think gay teenagers face the same pressures or different pressures....

When is the right time to have sex?

Worldwide ages of consent CountryMale – female sexMale- male sexFemale –female sex China14 Cyprus13/1717 France15 Ireland17 Italy14 Nigeria13illegal PakistanMust be marriedillegal Portugal14/16 Spain13 Sweden15 Trinidad and Tobago16illegal United Kingdom16

So what does the age of consent mean? The age of consent is the age when the law says you can agree to have sex. In most countries, until you reach this age you can't legally have sex with anyone, however old they are. Sometimes the law is slightly different when the partners are of a similar age, but there is usually still a minimum age below which sex is always illegal.

But our parents say it’s ok.... That doesn't make any difference - your parents don't make the law. Teens can't get around the laws for smoking, drinking or driving because their parents say so, and it's the same with sex. The age of consent laws always apply, whether you're in love, or you've been together for ages, or you've had sex before.

Statutory rape f you are under the age of consent and you choose to have sex with someone who is over the age of consent, then they can be charged with the crime of 'statutory rape'. Some countries have different names for this crime, and some states in the US call it 'unlawful sexual penetration' or just 'rape'.

Task 3 - When are you ready to have sex? In 2’s or 3’s talk about the signs or situations, thoughts or feelings that mean you may be ready to have sex. Be prepared to feed back your answers to the rest of the class.

Are you ready for sex? Having sex for the first time can be a very special experience, but it can also lead to all sorts of complications. Sex without a condom or other form of contraception can result in pregnancy, HIV or a sexually transmitted infection. There can also be emotional consequences to having sex with someone – it can really change a relationship, and not always for the better. Sex can be enjoyable with the right person, but it’s very easy to make mistakes and end up hurt, which is why people advise you: "don’t have sex until you’re ready!"

Are you doing this because YOU want to? Or are you thinking about having sex because someone else wants you to? Maybe you’re not sure you’re ready, but your partner is keen? Or perhaps there's a bit of ‘peer pressure’ – all your friends seem to be having sex, so you feel you should be too? Do any of the following sound familiar? - “You would if you loved me!” “It’s only natural!” “Everyone else is doing it!” “Don’t you want to make our relationship stronger?” “You’ll have to do it sometime – why not now, with me?” “I'll be gentle, and it'll be really great, I promise!” “I'll only put it in for a second...”

Wait..... If you recognise any of these phrases, then you should think carefully! These are not the right reasons to have sex. A partner who says things like this is probably trying to put pressure on you and might not really care whether you’re ready or not – this person doesn’t respect your feelings, and they’re probably not the right person to have sex with.

Nor should you have sex just because your friends are saying things like : “You mean you’ve never done it?!?” “I lost it when I was twelve...” “Yeah, I’ve had sex loads of times...” “You’re a virgin, you wouldn’t understand...” “No-one will be interested in you if they hear you’re frigid.” “It's amazing - you don't know what you're missing!”

Your friends.... It may feel like your friends are all more experienced and knowledgeable, but we guarantee they're probably not! Besides, being sexually experienced at a young age doesn’t necessarily make someone mature or sensible - in fact, it usually indicates the opposite.

plenary In pairs or groups of 3 come up with a slogan that could be used as part of an advertising campaign to make teenagers more comfortable with not feeling pressured to have sex too soon. E.g.