MENTOR-MENTEE PARTNERSHIP – ARE THERE BOUNDARIES? Presented at the Center for Undergraduate Research Excellence Workshop Wednesday, May 25,2016 Ram Nayar, Ph.D. Director, CURE Bethune-Cookman University, Daytona Beach, FL

SYNOPSIS 1. On and about Mentees 2. On and about Mentors 3. A framework for Mentoring 4. Action Plan 5. On Boundaries

Who is Mentor?

Coach or Mentor?

Coach – Will help you to do what you NEED to DO Mentor – Will help you to do what you WANT to DO

MENTEES What are the Attributes you are looking for, in YOUR Mentor?

THE FIRST MEETING Questions from CURE Scholars to their Mentors.

QUESTIONS FROM CURE SCHOLARS How did you get your Ph.D. so young, and what are the benefits? What were some things you struggled with, while in college? What life event made you pick your field?

QUESTIONS FROM CURE SCHOLARS Where do you get your data from, that helps you find a stepping stone to start your research? If you could give your younger self some professional advice what would that be?

QUESTIONS FROM CURE SCHOLARS How did you go about achieving the successes that you have? What was the hardest, yet most valuable lesson you learned in your professional career?

WHAT RESEARCH SAYS 1. What was the turning point in your life from where I am now? 2. How do you spend most of your time, when away from your work? 3. What used to be your biggest weaknesses? 4. What are you most proud of? 5. Who else would you recommend I connect with? Adapted from: Bert Gervais, of “Success Mentor Education”.

Characteristics of a SUCCESSFUL MENTEE

WHAT RESEARCH SAYS 1.Commitment 2.Flexibility 3.More than one mentor 4.Openness 5.Listen and accept different points of view

THE FIRST MEETING Where? Questions from Mentor to Mentees?

WHAT RESEARCH SAYS 1. Tell me anything about you that I need to know, that you think would help me to be a better mentor. 2. What are your expectations of me as a mentor? 3. What was the reason why you chose me as your mentor? [a reason beyond the subject area of research] 4. Should challenges arise in our mentoring process, how would you like me to deal with you?

THE FRAMEWORK FOR MENTORING Set the rules of engagement by mutual agreement a. Day and Time b. Length of mentoring session c. Absence d. Communication channels e. Trust ; Confidentiality; Privacy f. Extent of Expectations g. Boundaries of Expectations

ACTION PLAN For Mentors and Mentees Together 1.Set realistic goals and achievable objectives 2.Set Deadlines for completion of each goal and objective 3.Set a time to evaluate the progress, and correct course if necessary

ARE THERE BOUNDARIES? 1.Mutual Respect 2.Personal Space 3.Level of Dependency 4.Shared Responsibility