CHPTS. 6,8,9 A Healthy Relationship Communication and Respect Peers and Friendships Abstinence Conflicts, Violence & Abuse
DDefine: ***Relationship AA bond or connection you have with other people ***Friendship AA significant relationship between two people that is based on: ttrustcaring CConsideration ***Role TThe part you play in your relationships
**Cooperation Working together for the good of all **Compromise Problem solving method in which each participant gives up something to reach a solution
***There are 3 Styles of communication: (SEE p.pts. 12 & 13) Aggressive Being overly forceful, pushy or hostile/ may involve bullying or intimidation Assertive Expressing your views clearly and respectfully/ standing up for your rights and beliefs while respecting others and their rights—helps come up with a solution and improve relationships with others Passive Being unwilling or unable to express thoughts and feelings in a direct or firm manner/ usually a person who dislikes conflict and/or arguments
A. Assertive Refusal: State your position/ stand your ground/ suggest alternatives to those pushing you- sometimes this takes more than one effort Examples: body language, strong eye contact, ***ultimately must be willing to walk away— when things don’t work
Passive and Aggressive Responses: Passive: **Ultimately you are viewed as a pushover even though it seems easier and more friendly Aggressive: This is so overly forceful that it usually involves Yellingshoutingshoving Other verbal and physical forces These reactions are harmful physically and emotionally Role Play p
1. **Speaking Skills: Say what you mean to the person you need to say it to (I and You messages next slide)) 2. **Listening Skills: You can make sure messages get through by active listening (How to practice….next slide) 3. **Nonverbal : How you say something and the body language behind it can say far more than the words themselves (examples next slide)
Ways to practice 1. Don’t interrupt: Give your full attention to the speaker 2. Show interest: Eye contact/ nodding/ positive comments 3. Restate what you hear: 4. Ask questions: Clarifies thoughts **5. Show empathy: Let the other person know that you can relate/ avoid passing judgment
DEFINE: **Harassment—Persistently annoying other people **Manipulation—An indirect and dishonest way to control and influence people See 8.5/ What are some common forms of manipulation? **(See RHS slides) ThreatsBlackmailFlattery BribingMockingGuilt trips
Avoid high risk activities Ex. **Places with alcohol and drugs **Being alone at home on a date or in an isolated place Take responsibility for your own well being Ex. **It is the only 100% method of eliminating health risks like STD’s (50% are ages 15-24) spread from person to person through sexual contact, unplanned pregnancy (BOTH HAVE LIFELONG CONSEQUENCES) **Make a deliberate decision which takes planning and self- control (actions overriding emotions) **Is it normal to have sexual feelings? Yes Can you control the reaction to these ? Yes
Dating: **Establish healthy dating expectations/ what are some? Treat each other with respect and consideration **Be honest with thoughts and feelings—”LISTEN” Never feel pressured to go against your values **Set CLEAR limits: Examples What age will I datewhere will you go How will you get therewhat will you do **Set limits on “what is affection”
Affection: **Think about priorities and set limits on how much affection is okay Communication: **Discuss your limits with the person you date— Realize Movies and Television with sexual content influences your choices to be abstinent **Talk with an adult: Do they have valid suggestions Beware of online friendships and alert adults **Date a person who shares your values & beliefs
**Conflicts: (L.1) Any disagreement, struggle, or fight How does conflict Escalate to violence/abuse: **A conflict that is becoming more serious **What causes this? **Power struggles: won’t leave you alone Loyalties **Jealousy & envyProperty disputes Attitudes & values**Lack of respect **Is conflict normal? Yes **Can it be positive? Yes (Relationships can be strengthened)
**Practice Conflict Resolution: The process of ending conflict through cooperation and problem solving/compromise **What is negotiation? The use of communication and/or compromise to settle a disagreement **What is mediation? A neutral party coming in and helping others to resolve their conflict
Violence: Threats or actual physical force to harm another person or their property **Most violent crimes center around alcohol and drug use Gang Violence: Usually involves robbery, drug dealing, violent attacks **Teens belonging to gangs are more likely than others to commit serious crimes and acts of violence Homicide: **The willful killing of one human being by another 2 nd LEADING cause of death in TEENS (#1 Car Accidents)
Rape: Any form of sexual intercourse that place against a person’s will ***Survivors need time to heal physically and emotionally. Most will suffer from fear, guilt and shame. ***Professional Help will always be needed Date Rape: One person in a dating relationship forces the other to take part in sexual intercourse (most common form of rape) Fact: 40% of female rape victims know their attacker or are romantically involved with them Tips to Avoid Rape: If you don’t know them REALLY well—don’t be alone Avoid Alcohol and Drugs Don’t leave beverages unattended Make sure you have a way home if things don’t go well
To Ensure That Certain Students Receive Information Annually on Lawfully Abandoning a Newborn Baby. Students in grades nine through 12 receive information annually on the manner in which a parent may lawfully abandon a newborn baby with a responsible person, in accordance with G.S. 7B‑500. : Give handout and answer questions on this Law…