Alleged Bomber NORTHPARK BAPTIST CHURCH FALL 2010 ADULT LIFE GROUP SERIES Living Spirit-Filled Lives - Obedience Ephesians 6:1-4

P.J. Tucker and Randa Ryan

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 43% of Americans who accept Christ did so before age 13 64% accepted Christ before age 18 50% of children who accepted Christ before their teen years were led to Christ by their parents 85% of parents of children under 13 believe they have the primary responsibility for teaching their children about spiritual issues Barna Research ‘04

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 1.“Children obey your parents”, how are you doing… DISCUSSION GUIDE a. As a child of parents? b. As a child of God? c. Are your children obedient?

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 2. What does it mean to obey one’s parents, in the Lord? (6:1)

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 3. How is obedience the core of Christian discipleship?

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 4a. What does it mean to honor someone? To respect, fear, esteem someone b. How is honor an extension of obedience? To show respect you obey the demands of one in authority ?

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 5. How does honoring one’s parents ultimately flow out of a Godly fear of Christ? It demonstrates a healthy submission of one to those in authority

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 6.Read (Deut. 5:16 and Eph. 6:3). How are they different? Paul reflects the New Covenant meaning encompassing the earth not just a specific location

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 7. List ways parents can provoke children to anger.

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 8. The idea behind “bring them up” literally means “nourish”. The same term is used in (Eph. 5:29). How does the meaning in that verse compare to the meaning in (6:4)? (Eph. 5:29) refers to nourishing your physical body where (6:4) refers to nourishing the child’s spiritual body. Both are vital in parenting

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 9.How much time do you spend as a parent making sure your child(ren) are nourished spiritually each week?

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 10. What needs to change in your life to become more Spirit-controlled so that you can impart Godly discipline and instruction in your child(ren)?

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber CAT'S IN THE CRADLE by Harry Chapin A child arrived just the other day He came to the world in the usual way But there were planes to catch, and bills to pay He learned to walk while I was away, and he was Talkin' 'fore I knew it, and as he grew, he said: I'm gonna be like you, dad, You know I'm gonna be like you CHORUS 1: And the cat's in the cradle, and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man on the moon When you comin' home, dad, I don't know when But we'll have a good time then, son You know we'll have a good time then.

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber My son turned ten just the other day, he said Thanks for the ball, dad, come on let's play Can you teach me to throw, I said not today, I got a lot to do, he said that's okay And he walked away but his smile never dimmed, it said I'm gonna be like him, yeah You know I'm gonna be like him. *CHORUS 1* Well he came from college just the other day So much like a man I just had to say Son I'm proud of you, can we sit for a while? He shook his head, and said, with a smile What I'd really like, dad, is to borrow the car keys See ya later, can I have them please?

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber CHORUS 2: And the cat's in the cradle, and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man on the moon When you comin' home, son, I don't know when But we'll have a good time then, dad You know we'll have a good time then. I've long since retired, my son's moved away I called him up just the other day. I said, I'd like to see you, if you don't mind, he said I'd love to, dad, if I could find the time. You see my new job's a hassle and the kids got the flu But it's been sure nice talkin' to you, yeah Sure nice talkin' to you. And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me, He'd grown up just like me, yeah. My boy was just like me.

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber Below is a list for parents adapted from the book Lists to Live By by Alice Gray, Steve Stephens, and John Van Diest. 1. Pay more attention to your marriage—or yourself, if you're a single parent—than you do to the children. Your marriage, if strong and satisfying, will give your children a sense of security. 2. Expect your children to obey. Don't apologize for the decisions you make in their lives; you are in charge of the family.

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 3. Nurture your children's responsibility within this structure. Allow them to make choices, and let them know they must expect and accept the resulting outcomes. 4. Say no and say it firmly. If the response is a tantrum, so be it. The real world doesn't bend to temper tantrums. Prepare your child to learn to accept no as an answer. 5. Where toys are concerned, less is more. Having too many options inhibits a child's ability to make creative decisions.

London bombing victim Alleged Bomber 6. Turn off the tube. Children need to develop competency skills and social skills, neither of which occur by sitting passively in front of the TV. 7. Don't be intimidated by the experts. Listen to as much advice as you can and use suggestions and ideas that make sense to you, but raise your children your way.

Alleged Bomber NORTHPARK BAPTIST CHURCH FALL 2010 ADULT LIFE GROUP SERIES Living Spirit-Filled Lives - Obedience Ephesians 6:1-4