A Quick Quiz 1. Do you believe in yourself? 2. Do you think you can do the things that you want to do? 3. Do you think other people do better than you because you’re not good enough?

No to 1 and 2 and yes to 3 No to 1 and 2 and yes to 3 Probably lack self-confidence Probably lack self-confidence You ’ re not alone You ’ re not alone Confidence means faith in yourself Confidence means faith in yourself Lack faith, bad experiences Lack faith, bad experiences “ You ’ re no good. ” “ You ’ re no good. ” “ You can ’ t ever do anything right. ” “ You can ’ t ever do anything right. ”

Actors, astronauts, & Olympic athletes sometimes experience loss of confidence. The purpose of low self-confidence: provides risk-free “comfort zone” Actually use up more energy than developing you talents, ruin your life. Poor self-confidence is made by using self-talk

What we tell ourselves all the time “This is really cool!” “This is terrible!” Our brain is like a computer, what we think is what we do. afraid to risk or try out, get stuck, can’t grow

“I knew that would happen.” This self-talk is called self-fulfilling prophecy You change your confidence by changing your thoughts.

What you think is what you do Our brain is like a computer, It runs whatever program you put into it. “I knew that would happen.” If you protect yourself too much, you stop growing. Causes of poor self-confidence 1 Perfectionism accept what is perfect 2 Judgmental Thinking set standards too high feel lonely, low self-confidence 3 Helplessness & Hopelessness be controlled by others

4 ‘Missing’ Thinking having new material things confidence comes from inside. 5 Worry worrying makes you feel more nervous 6 Victim Thinking don’t face reality & take responsibility cause to hate yourself because you seem so weak Build your new confidence 1 Avoid negative self-talk trap 2 Don’t rely on luck to solve problems 3 Take responsibility for what happens in your life 4 Make the decision now to change your life 5 Change the way you think of yourself

Knowing Yourself Your needs 1 The Need to Belong if not, loneliness destroys confidence 2 The Need to Achieve accomplish something worthwhile 3 The Need for Fun look forward to a better future 4 The Need for Freedom independent, circumstances under control

Building Your Confidence Goals build confidence by knowing where you want to go (frustration, low self-confidence) Changing ‘Can’t’ to ‘Can’ Going Step by Step Check Your Progress If at first you don’t succeed, do something else. A confident person should: expect success actively involve feel sense of control have meaning in life & not give up keep working at achieving goals

Do It Now you learn from the past/mistakes, don’t live in it make something new, move ahead & get on with your new life