Bullying: What Boys Need to Know West Haralson Elementary

State of GA Statute “Bullying is a pattern of written or verbal expression or any physical act or gesture that is intended to ridicule, humiliate, intimidate or cause measurable physical or emotional distress upon one or more students in the school, on school grounds, in school vehicles, at designated school bus stops, or at school activities or sanctioned events.” Bullying is a LEVEL 3 offense and can result in suspension and alternative school.

Bullying Teasing Verbal Hurtful Boys and Girls 4 Types: Physical Verbal Social Threats Feelings: Scared Afraid Worried Why? Want a Reaction What to Do? Ignore Feelings: Annoyed Frustrated Irritated What to Do? Tell An Adult Why? Want to Hurt You 2 Types: Verbal Physical

4 Types of Bullying Physical Bullying (Hurting their Body) –Hitting, Kicking, Shoving, Punching Verbal Bullying (Hurting their Feelings) –Name Calling, Putting Someone Down, Mocking –Blackmail Social Bullying (A Group of Students) –Rumors/Gossip and Breaking the ChainRumors/GossipBreaking the Chain –Cyber-bullying –Leaving Someone Out Threats (Intimidation) –Saying your are going to do something hurtful to someone –Stealing their belongings/Making them give you things

Boys Bullying in School YouTube Clip the-hero.html

Boys vs. Girls Boys are not the only bullies, girls bully too. Being singled out, ridiculed, excluded, or alienated is a form of bullying. Being beaten up emotionally on a daily basis does damage to the victim and is bullying.

Victim, Bully, Peer YouTube Clip

Victims: I’m Being Bullied If it’s hard to stand up for yourself, ignore the bullying and walk away…then tell someone who can help Talk to someone who can help: –an older student, your friends, classroom teacher, guidance –counselor, school principal, sports coach, parents, or any adult you trust It really does work when you talk to someone and get help. You may have to tell more than one person…Don’t Give Up!

What Else Can You Do? If you’re scared to talk to an adult on your own, ask a friend to go with you Go to areas where you feel safe Stay close to students you can count on to stick up for you Stay calm…try not to show that you are upset when being bullied Get funny…humor shows you’re not bothered Be assertive, not aggressive…fighting back often makes the bullying worse Focus on your own areas of interests/abilities

Bullies: I’m Bullying Someone Talk to someone who can help: an older student, your friends, teacher, counselor, school principal, sports coach, parents, or any adult you trust They can help you find ways to get along with other children. Ask a friend to help you stop if you start to bully others Set goals each day to make it easier not to bully - keep your cool (e.g., Today I’ll help others rather than hurt them)

What Else Can I Do? Understand that you may not like everyone around you, but you do have to treat them with respect. Appreciate kids’ differences… different doesn’t mean worse or better than you Put yourself in other kids’ shoes. Would you want to be picked on, put down, or left out? Apologize to the kids you have bullied Resist peer pressure to bully…do what’s right Know that if other kids watch and laugh, it doesn’t mean they like it when you bully Be a real leader….real leaders treat others with respect

Bystanders YouTube Clip bullying-be-that-one.html

Bystanders: What Can You Do? Talk to someone who can help: an older student, your friends, teachers, counselor, school principal, sports coach, parents, or any adult you trust Remember…telling is not tattling –Telling is what you do to get someone out of trouble –Tattling is what you do to get someone into trouble If you walk away and get help, you are part of the solution…if you stay and watch, you are part of the problem

What Else Can You Do? Stand up for kids who are bullied….they can’t do it themselves Invite kids who are bullied to play with you somewhere else Comfort the person who was hurt and make it known that what happened was not fair or deserved The best thing you can do for kids who are bullied is to be their friend If it’s hard for you to speak out against bullying on your own, ask a friend to do it with you

What Could Happen If You Bully? Depending on the bullying behavior, you could suffer the following consequences: –Writing assignment –Verbal reprimand –Loss of privilege –Parent conference –Referral to counselor –Reassignment of classroom, or seat in classroom/cafeteria/school bus –Suspension from MAP classes –ISS or OSS –Bullying letter sent home to parents –Referral to Alternative School Sample of Bully Notification Letter

Trouble with the Law Separate from the school’s actions, parents can press legal charges against you for bullying which will involve the police and courts (Ex. Simple Assault or Battery Charges)

When Reporting Bullying Who was involved? What was said and done? Where did the bullying happen? When did it occur? Were any adults present? Who were the bystanders/witnesses? How long has this been going on? Who has been told about the bullying?

Be More Than A Bystander more-than-bystander.html