Understanding Relationships Developing Positive Relationships Chapter 2-1

Types of Relationships Parents –Infants form their first relationships with their parents Siblings –Prepares children to build positive relationships with their peers Peer –Need to accept friends as they are –Positive relationships become a teens support system Romantic Relationships –Can lead to marriage

Benefits of Positive Relationships Can be beneficial to a person’s physical and emotional well-being Fewer physical illnesses Tend to live longer Less prone to diseases Provide social benefits More involved in activities Economic well-being People who relate well on the job are likely to enjoy their work Networking

Networking Forming an interconnected group whose members work together to help on another Forming an interconnected group whose members work together to help on another Can be social or business networks Can be social or business networks

Qualities Needed for Positive Relationships Mutual Respect Mutual Respect Each person regards the other with honor and esteem Each person regards the other with honor and esteem Need to feel valued by each other Need to feel valued by each other Trust Trust Having confidence in one another Having confidence in one another Each person needs to prove they are trustworthy-it’s not given Each person needs to prove they are trustworthy-it’s not given Trust can be fragile Trust can be fragile

Qualities Needed for Positive Relationships Openness Openness An atmosphere in which people feel free to share their thoughts and feelings An atmosphere in which people feel free to share their thoughts and feelings You must also be willing to open up to others You must also be willing to open up to others People cannot meet your needs unless you tell them what your needs are People cannot meet your needs unless you tell them what your needs are Reliability Reliability If you say you will do something, people must be able to count on you to do it It also refers to routine pattern of behavior Helps people know what to expect from others in relationships

Complete worksheet “Types of Relationships” Complete worksheet “Types of Relationships” Complete the worksheet by citing a positive example of each type of relationship from a movie, book, or TV show Complete the worksheet by citing a positive example of each type of relationship from a movie, book, or TV show Then list which of the four key elements of positive relationships are illustrated by each example Then list which of the four key elements of positive relationships are illustrated by each example

Friendship Collage Make a friendship collage of friendship words, pictures, stories, poems, riddles and jokes. Make a friendship collage of friendship words, pictures, stories, poems, riddles and jokes. You can cut pictures, words and short stories from magazines, or write descriptions of friends and friendly behaviors. You can cut pictures, words and short stories from magazines, or write descriptions of friends and friendly behaviors.

Understanding Relationships Developing Relationships Chapter 2-2

Friendships “Friends make successes more exciting and failures less painful” “The only way to have a friend is to be one”

Friends Friends are people who know, like, and trust each other Friends are people who know, like, and trust each other Friends complement one another’s positive traits Friends complement one another’s positive traits Friendship is the bond that forms between friends Friendship is the bond that forms between friends It’s a process of give and take It’s a process of give and take The best friendships develop between people who share experiences, interests, and personal priorities The best friendships develop between people who share experiences, interests, and personal priorities

3 Types of Friends Acquaintance- someone you know, but who is not a close friend Acquaintance- someone you know, but who is not a close friend Know this person by name, but probably do not spend much social time with them Know this person by name, but probably do not spend much social time with them Good Friends Good Friends People who you share common interests Acquaintances may become good friends if you spend more time together Best Friends Best Friends Friends with whom you share your deepest thoughts and feelings Often share a common background and lifestyle

Forming Friendships You are likely to form a friendship with someone who has a personality similar to yours You are likely to form a friendship with someone who has a personality similar to yours When people think and act alike, they usually enjoy being together When people think and act alike, they usually enjoy being together

How to Make Friends? Show you are interested in them Show you are interested in them Focus on what they are saying Focus on what they are saying Ask questions Ask questions Provide feedback to keep the conversation moving Provide feedback to keep the conversation moving Be open-minded Be open-minded Make yourself approachable Make yourself approachable

Work in groups of 2-3 to complete the Positive Relationship & Friendship Campaign Requirements

What is your dating attitude? Complete “Dating Attitudes” Worksheet Answer questions 1-16 AND pick one statement you agree or disagree with and write why

Dating The factors that attract people to friends also attract them to dating partners The factors that attract people to friends also attract them to dating partners Dating can help you learn about yourself Dating can help you learn about yourself

Types of Dating Group DatingGroup Dating –A number of people of both sexes go out together –Teens today may refer to group dating as “hanging out” Random Dating, also called casual datingRandom Dating, also called casual dating –Allows people to date more than one person at a time

Dating Cont. Steady Dating, also referred as “going out” When two people date each other only Provides several types of security you know that someone likes you and cares about you Not having to worry about spending the evening with someone you do not know Not having to find a date to the dance or party It does not guarantee perfect peace and unity Conflict occurs in all relationships

What is Love? Love has lots of meanings Love involves caring more about your mate than yourself What is your definition of love? Is there different definitions of love?

Write a Cinquain Poem Entitled Love is… First Line- A one word title First Line- A one word title Second Line- Two words that describe your title Second Line- Two words that describe your title Third Line- Three words that describes an action relating to your title Third Line- Three words that describes an action relating to your title Fourth Line- Four words that describe a feeling relating to your topic or just feeling words Fourth Line- Four words that describe a feeling relating to your topic or just feeling words Fifth Line- One word that refers back to your title Fifth Line- One word that refers back to your title

Is it Love or Infatuation? Infatuation is an intense feeling of admiration The relationship is often short-lived You can be infatuated with someone you never met People fall into infatuation a lot, but rarely fall into love Infatuation is self-centered whereas love is unselfish

Watch “Healthy Relationships” Video Clip Watch “Healthy Relationships” Video Clip Fill out Healthy Relationships Video Handout while watching video Fill out Healthy Relationships Video Handout while watching video

Make a pamphlet titled “Is it Love or Is it Infatuation?” –List the differences between love and infatuation –What are characteristics of both? –What is healthy and what is not healthy in a relationship? –Anything else you feel is important for people to know about love vs. infatuation

Facing Sexual Decisions If you make a careless choice, your life and your health may be jeopardized Sexual abstinence is a choice to refrain from sexual intercourse –Choose to be abstinent b/c: Moral reasons Health and safety reasons (STD’s/AIDS) Personal integrity and expression of self-esteem Don’t want to risk pregnancy Have goals they want to reach

Watch “STD’s, AIDS, and the Clean Love Solution” Watch “STD’s, AIDS, and the Clean Love Solution” 30 minutes 30 minutes

STD Research Go to the computer lab and research STD’s Fill out STD Research Worksheet

Watch “HIV/AIDS: Staying Safe” As you watch video, fill out worksheet

Quiz on Developing Relationships next class period Quiz on Developing Relationships next class period

Research HIV/AIDS and give a 5 minute presentation to the class on your assigned research topic. You must include either a handout to give to the class or slides that the class will have to copy down. Research topics will be: Research topics will be: What is it? What is it? What are the signs and symptoms? What are the signs and symptoms? How is it contracted/spread? How is it contracted/spread? How is it treated? How is it treated? What happens if left untreated? What happens if left untreated?