Heart to Heart Parenting

Parenting Temptations Disengaged and Passive

For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not. 1 Samuel 3:13

Parenting Temptations Disengaged and Passive The Friend

My son, give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways. Proverbs 23:26

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4

Grasping Hearts We have to show our teens that we want their hearts and that we can be trusted with their hearts If we are going to do this, we must be good children of our Heavenly Father

For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God. James 1:20

Grasping Hearts We have to show our teens that we want their hearts and that we can be trusted with their hearts If we are going to do this, we must be good children of our Heavenly Father Do your teens know you love your God above all else?

If ye love me, keep my commandments. John 14:15

Grasping Hearts It doesn’t matter if this is “the way we were raised” or not, we are seeking to instill in our children the heart of our Heavenly Father

Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and show thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not. Jeremiah 33:3

Grasping Hearts 1)Prayer a.Pray for yourself

If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. James 1:5

Grasping Hearts 1)Prayer a.Pray for yourself b.Pray for your teen

For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them. Matthew 18:20

Grasping Hearts 1)Prayer a.Pray for yourself b.Pray for your teen c.Pray with your teen 2)Time – Relationships take time

Grasping Hearts Make time for your teen that is… – One-on-one – Frequent – Focused – Spirit-led – Threat-free – Flexible – Fun – Serving – Consistent

All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast. Proverbs 15:15 A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones. Proverbs 17:22

Grasping Hearts 3)Laugh – Teens love to laugh; they naturally see humor!

A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it! Proverbs 15:23 A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver. Proverbs 25:11

Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Ephesians 4:29

Grasping Hearts 3)Laugh – Teens love to laugh; they naturally see humor! 4)Encourage – Good parents help their children know when they have done wrong – Godly parents help their children also know when they have done right

And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. Deuteronomy 6:6-9

And those twelve stones, which they took out of Jordan, did Joshua pitch in Gilgal. And he spake unto the children of Israel, saying, When your children shall ask their fathers in time to come, saying, What mean these stones? Then ye shall let your children know, saying, Israel came over this Jordan on dry land.

For the Lord your God dried up the waters of Jordan from before you, until ye were passed over, as the Lord your God did to the Red sea, which he dried up from before us, until we were gone over: That all the people of the earth might know the hand of the Lord, that it is mighty: that ye might fear the Lord your God for ever. Joshua 4:20- 24

Guiding Hearts The teen years are the laboratory for adulthood and you are the instructor What are the characteristics of a good instructor?

Guiding Hearts 1)Open and Approachable 2)Transparent 3)Providing Contextualization 4)Providing Support

Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23

Guarding Hearts We must give all diligence to guarding our hearts for God It’s like guarding a city, every entry point must be protected or you will have trouble!

Guarding Hearts 1)Time

Redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Ephesians 5:16

Guarding Hearts 1)Time 2)Relationships

He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed. Proverbs 13:20

Guarding Hearts 1)Time 2)Relationships 3)Entertainment

I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me. Psalm 101:3

Don’t tell me – show me Don’t demand it – display it Don’t push me – lead me