Mitch Gordon NewCAJE 7 -- Aug 2016
If the only tool you have is a hammer, then all of your problems look like nails.
YOU individually are the YOU A person should seek to maximize his or her own winnings without regard to how the others in the group do. Thus each player is an individualist -- neither competitive nor cooperative. If the others do well, that's fine; if they do poorly, that's fine, too. A Player realize that the others are equally indifferent to him or her. Only One Card per player X or Y must be played in each round…and all AT THE SAME TIME
Your personal experience Observer experience In Your temple…
Traditional Insight: ◦ “Change doesn’t happen until the status quo is more painful than change.” Who makes changes at your Temple? ◦ Volunteers, professional staff, clergy, committees ◦ Describe process, length of time, how you feel Name some “Big” changes: Name some “Small” changes:
Personal and Psychological impact of change on the individual. Non linear Different for everybody It is the only part of change the each individual can control for themselves
Core Concerns Preparation Form General Core Concerns Their Core Concerns My Core Concerns What I Could do to Address Their Core Concerns What I Could do to Address My Core Concerns Appreciation Affiliation Autonomy Status Role
Work to separate the people from the problem Sometimes the people are the problem
Engage Disengage Rule Follower Rule Breaker
I would rather ask forgiveness, than permission.
What Happened Diagram of a Conversation Feelings Identity
Gregarious Leaving/exiting “The outgoing President of the college...” Its going to cost you Cut down a tree Near war escalation Its free 1976 Korean DMZ Poplar Tree Incident “Schwartz’ cleaners, what do you think, we do clothes for nothing”
Stories from your life/synagogue
Preparation
A Definition of Mental Illness: To continue to do the same thing and expect a different outcome.
Fill in the gaps Guess at their stories Make assumptions