John White and Simon Clarke Ste King Dealing With Parents John White and Simon Clarke http://www.youtube.co m/watch?v=VNqpfqjj2 fs Ste McKeown

Introductions John White 17, Carmel College, Sports Leaders Level 1 and 2, Qualified to coach Disability sport, Squash coach + academy player, A.T.C P.T.I, 3 years coaching experience with young people, Run for Sport Relief 2008 +2010, Volunteer Apprentice, CRB checked November 2010. Simon Clarke 17, Carmel College, Sports Leaders Level 1 and 2, Tennis coach + Lifestyles Wavertree club player, Walk Leaders qualified, 3 years coaching experience with young people, Camp America 2011, Run for Sport Relief 2008 + 2010, CRB checked November 2010.

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Aims How you can help us at the club What we expect from you How your actions affect the club

Why do you come to football? Coaches Players Parents Make a list of 9 reasons in a pyramid, most important at the top. Walk round, check other groups Why did you put that as your most important reason? Do you agree? “Kids want their parents to watch them play football, but they also want to be supported by them, not embarrassed” Ray Winstone

To Become a Professional Player What the Training School said – “Why we come to football.” To Have Fun To Enjoy Myself To Be With Friends To Improve My Skills A Sense Of Achievement To Keep Fit/Healthy To Win To Become a Professional Player These are the sentences you must make with the cards in front of you. You will do this twice, first time with negative pressure coming at you and a second time with encouragement. See how you perform!

Remember that children play for FUN Applaud effort and good play as well as success Always respect the match officials’ decisions Remain outside the field of play and within the Designated Spectators’ Area (where provided) Let the coach do their job and not confuse the players by telling them what to do Encourage the players to respect the opposition, referee and match officials Avoid criticising a player for making a mistake – mistakes are part of learning Never engage in, or tolerate, offensive, insulting, or abusive language or behaviour.

What can you do at the club? Give lifts to and from training and matches Help out at race nights Wash the kits Encourage the whole team rather than just your child, but don’t tell them different things than the coach REMEMBER THAN CHILDREN COME TO FOOTBALL FOR FUN!!!

R V Rimmer http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TEd77NoSGk&NR=1 A Sunday league footballer from Merseyside who drove his car at a referee has been jailed for 24 weeks. Joseph Rimmer, 28, drove his 4x4 on to the pitch, causing referee David Harkness and football players to run for their lives, Liverpool Crown Court was told. Rimmer, of Satinwood Crescent, Melling, Merseyside, reacted with fury as he was about to be shown the red card during a match between Rimmer's team Lonsdale and local rivals Harrington at Portland Street playing fields in Southport on Sunday February 14. Mr Jones said: "After about an hour the defendant claimed to the referee that he had been fouled but Mr Harkness waved play on. The defendant then showed dissent by swearing at the referee who awarded a free kick against him." Rimmer continued to hurl abuse at Mr Harkness, the court was told, and the referee reached to his pocket to book the player. Rimmer, a fitness instructor and nightclub doorman, threatened him: "If you book me or send me off, you know what will happen." Mr Harkness took that as a threat, Mr Jones said. "But before he could be shown the red card, the defendant stated, 'I'm going to run you down', then walked off the pitch," the barrister added. "He then walked across a neighbouring pitch as another game was going on. When players shouted to the defendant to get off the pitch, he told them, 'Watch me run the f****** ref over'. He went over to his Range Rover and drove toward the pitch." Rimmer's car came to within five yards of Mr Harkness, the court was told. The referee and the players managed to get out of the way of the vehicle. Witnesses statements read to the court said people reacted with "panic and fear" and some had to run or arch their backs to get out of the way of Rimmer's car. When the defendant came to a stop, he got out of the car and made a gun shape with his hand, shouting towards Mr Harkness: "I'm going to shoot you." The matter was reported to police and Rimmer later voluntarily attended a police station where he admitted being the driver of the 4x4. In his victim impact statement, read to the court by Mr Jones, Mr Harkness said he feared he would be killed. It went on: "I am frightened of retribution at my home or against my family. After 35 years I now fear I cannot continue as a referee. I have not slept through fear that the defendant will find out where I live and carry out his threat to shoot me." Rimmer pleaded guilty to affray at an earlier hearing. The prosecution offered no evidence on a separate charge of dangerous driving and a not guilty verdict was formally recorded. Rimmer was jailed for 24 weeks for affray and banned from driving for 12 months. .

R.E.S.P.E.C.T Referee is in charge Encourage team-mates Shout, but don’t criticise Play fairly Enjoy the game Captain only speaks to the referee Try whatever the score

Over to you! Make a list of what you would like the coaches to do for you and your child at the club e.g. Match reports, Man of the Match etc.

Why do most children play football? Answer: Because its FUN!

What was the main reason children gave for dropping out of football? Answer: Inappropriate expectations

Where should parents and spectators stand during the match? Answer: Behind the RESPECT line

Questions?

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