Safe Touch, Unsafe Touch Danielle Mosher, BA Guardian Angel Community Services

Goals To teach students the difference between safe and unsafe touches To inform students of their private parts and that no one should touch them without a good reason To help students identify a trusted adult To help students differentiate between safe and unsafe secrets To teach students different ways to say “no” to an unsafe touch

Safe Touches Safe touches are wanted Safe touches can be a way to share feelings Safe touches come from someone you love and trust Safe touches make you feel: Happy Comfortable Loved Important

What are some SAFE touches?

Unsafe Touches Unsafe touches are unwanted Unsafe touches can make you feel like something is wrong They make you feel: Confused Sad Scared Angry

What are some UNSAFE touches?

Unsafe Touches cont. Unsafe touches are NEVER your fault You are in charge of your body Your body belongs to you

Private Parts Your body has private parts. These are the parts that your bathing suit covers. Why is it important that we keep these areas covered?

Parts Your Bathing Suit Covers

Private Touches It is sometimes OK for a parent, doctor or a nurse to look at or touch your private parts to: Change a baby’s diaper Wash and dry a baby Take care of a sick child Give a child a checkup NO ONE else should ask to look at or try touch your private parts NO ONE should ask you look at or touch their private parts NOT EVEN SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU

Trusted Adults Someone you can tell secrets to Someone you can talk to if you are scared, sad, or uncomfortable Ex: Parent Grandparent Teacher Principal

Safe Secrets Safe secrets do not hurt anybody Safe secrets do not make people feel bad Safe secrets are fun! Ex: Not telling anybody what you got your mom for her birthday

Unsafe Secrets Unsafe secrets hurt people Unsafe secrets make people feel bad If a person says to keep a secret about an unsafe look or touch: DO NOT DO IT! Ex: Not telling anybody that somebody touched you in an unsafe way

Unsafe Secrets cont. A person may try to trick you into keeping an unsafe secret They may say: If you tell, you will get in trouble I will not like you if you tell If you tell, your pet will get hurt I will give you a toy to keep our secret You liked it. You wanted to do it

Speak Up! It is OK to say “No!” if an unsafe look or touch ever happens to you. What are other ways to say no?

NO! STOP IT! I DO NOT LIKE THAT! I AM GOING TO TELL!

What do you do? TELL, TELL, TELL until believed Tell more than one trusted adult Remember: UNSAFE TOUCHES ARE NEVER YOUR FAULT

Scenario #1 What would you do if your babysitter wanted you to sit on her lap but you did not want to because it made you uncomfortable?

Scenario #2 What would you do if a family friend showed you his/her private parts?

Scenario #3 What would you do if a classmate pushed you to the ground during recess but there were no adults around?

Scenario #4 What if your aunt wants you to give her a kiss every time that you talk to her, but you don’t want to because it makes you feel uncomfortable?

Scenario #5 What would you do if a friend came to you and told you that his uncle touched him in his private area and that it made him very uncomfortable? He tells you to keep it a secret.

DO YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS?