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Director, Residency Training Program Dr. Auxford Burks Director, Residency Training Program Ass’t Professor of Clinical Pediatrics Einstein College of Medicine Dr. Mark Levy Director, Larchmont/Mamaroneck Community Counseling Center Dr. Seth Weitzman Principal, Hommocks Middle School This presentation has been posted on the Hommocks website.

Mark Twain American, 1835-1910 on the teenage years. "When a child turns 12 you should put him in a barrel, nail the lid down and feed him through a knot hole. “When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around . . . When he turns 16, plug the hole!" When I got to be 21, I was astonished by how much he'd learned in seven years.”

Who took the “Communities That Care” Survey? Last administered May, 2016 Anonymous & confidential Nationally validated & reliable results Very large representative sample of student body Grade Gender 6 367 Female 49.5% 7 378 Male 50.5% 8 362

Percent of Hommocks Students Using Alcohol in Last 30 Days vs. USA USA data from U. Michigan monitoringthefuture.org Percent

Percent of Hommocks Students Using Marijuana in Last 30 Days vs. USA USA data from U. Michigan monitoringthefuture.org Percent

Hommocks Students’ Perception of Risk Moderate or Great Risk

Hommocks Students’ Perception of Parental Disapproval “Wrong” or “Very Wrong”

Hommocks Students’ Perception of Availability “Sort of” or “Fairly easy to get”

Paradoxes of Parenting People in Puberty

1. Young adolescents: You can’t live with them , and you can’t live without them. 2. Peers become more influential , but parents will always be the greatest influence. 3. After puberty they look older , but they are still very young and inexperienced. 4. Parenting is a full-time job , but take breaks to have fun and to listen without judging. 5. Young adolescents need opportunities for independence , but they need boundaries too. 6. Teenagers make poor choices and mistakes , but never make them feel they are bad people. 7. Set the bar high , but don’t be disappointed when they are unable to reach your expectations. 8. Always believe in your child , but you cannot always believe your child. 9. While you must teach them to look ahead , few decisions now are life-altering. 10. Your children will heed you, they’re just not on the same timetable. One day they too will say . . . “I sound just like my mother or father.”