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The Meaning of Marriage Timothy & Kathy Keller Roles: Loving Through Mutual Submission DVD Session 3 (Compliments Ch. 6 in the book, “Embracing The Other”) Teammates January 31, 2016 Facilitator: Lee Bennett

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Copyright © 2015 House on the Rock Family Ministries The Average couple spends ______ minutes a day in “meaningful” conversation? Office of National Statistics reports couples spend _______ hours a day together? How do you spend your time with your spouse? Women - focus on what? Men - focus on what? Copyright © 2015 House on the Rock Family Ministries

Blinding Flash of the Obvious Women care more than men about spending time together; this time had to involve talking to each other. Copyright © 2015 House on the Rock Family Ministries

spent talking together, the less sex they had Final Revelation: the less time couples spent talking together, the less sex they had Copyright © 2015 House on the Rock Family Ministries

Copyright © 2015 House on the Rock Family Ministries What was the highlight of your day today? What was the “downer of the day?” What do you think the Lord might be trying to teach you or is doing in your life through these things? What can I do to help make the rest of your day better? How can I pray for you now? Copyright © 2015 House on the Rock Family Ministries

Where Do Our Roles Come From? What Are Some Biblical Roles?

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Due to copyright we cannot provide the DVD content here. Video Clip DVD Session 3 (Not available here) See the book: “The Meaning of Marriage” Ch. 6 Copies of the DVD are available online for about $26.95 Amazon Prime price = abt $18.35 (prices as of Jan. 3, 2017) Due to copyright we cannot provide the DVD content here.

What comment or thought from the video did you think was helpful in clarifying the Biblical understanding of gender roles in marriage? Any surprises?

Ephesians 5:23-33 (NET Bible) 23 because the husband is the head of the wife as also Christ is the head of the church—he himself being the savior of the body. 24 But as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her 26 to sanctify her by cleansing her with the washing of the water by the word, 27 so that he may present the church to himself as glorious—not having a stain or wrinkle, or any such blemish, but holy and blameless. New English Translation (NET) NET Bible® copyright ©1996-2006 by Biblical Studies Press, L.L.C. http://netbible.com All rights reserved.

Ephesians 5:28-33 (NET Bible) 28 In the same way husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one has ever hated his own body but he feeds it and takes care of it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 for we are members of his body. 31 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and will be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. 32 This mystery is great—but I am actually speaking with reference to Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless, each one of you must also love his own wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. New English Translation (NET) NET Bible® copyright ©1996-2006 by Biblical Studies Press, L.L.C. http://netbible.com All rights reserved.

Philippians 2:5-8(NET Bible) 5 You should have the same attitude toward one another that Christ Jesus had, 6 who though he existed in the form of God did not regard equality with God as something to be grasped, 7 but emptied himself by taking on the form of a slave, by looking like other men, and by sharing in human nature. 8  He humbled himself,by becoming obedient to the point of death—even death on a cross! New English Translation (NET) NET Bible® copyright ©1996-2006 by Biblical Studies Press, L.L.C. http://netbible.com All rights reserved.

Philippians 2:9-11(NET Bible) 9 As a result God highly exalted him and gave him the name that is above every name,10 so that at the name of Jesus every knee will bow—in heaven and on earth and under the earth—11 and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord to the glory of God the Father. New English Translation (NET) NET Bible® copyright ©1996-2006 by Biblical Studies Press, L.L.C. http://netbible.com All rights reserved.

Explain the Jesus Roles

Both women and men get to “play the Jesus role in marriage - Jesus in his sacrificial authority, Jesus in his sacrificial submission. By accepting our gender roles, and operating within them, we are able to demonstrate to the world concepts that are so counterintuitive as to be completely unintelligible unless they are lived out by men and women in Christian marriages.

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