ATB# 34 Answer questions #1-4 on the “Relationships Change Over Time” worksheet

1. Are you still friends with the friends you had in elementary school 1. Are you still friends with the friends you had in elementary school? Why or why not?

2. When you were in elementary school, what “made” someone your friend?

Now being in high school, what “makes” someone your friend?

What factors/events cause your relationships to evolve over time?

Personal Examples of how my relationships have changed over time -Siblings getting married -Becoming an aunt -Moving away to college (friends, siblings, and parents) -Friends getting married -Dating to Marriage - Married with no kids to Married & Pregnant

Why do relationships break down?

Why do relationships break down? People change Different values Lack of togetherness, talking, or time. Poor communication Selfishness Focusing on the faults or "cracks"

Communication Wrap-Up Plickers

Unhealthy Relationships Relationships that are not healthy are based on power and control, not equality and respect. In the early stages of an abusive relationship, you may not think the unhealthy behaviors are a big deal. However, possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, pulling hair, pushing or other negative, abusive behaviors, are — at their root — exertions of power and control. Remember that you deserve to be respected. There is no excuse for abuse of any kind.

Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship Focusing all your energy on your partner Dropping friends and family or activities you enjoy Feeling pressured or controlled a lot Having more bad times in the relationship than good Feeling sad or scared when with your partner

Mother Knows Best-Tangled https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi8kYcl2Y38

What to do… Even though you cannot change your partner, you can make changes in your own life to stay safe. Consider leaving your partner before the abuse gets worse. Whether you decide to leave or stay, make your safety your first priority. If you feel unsafe leave immediately. Remember, you have many options — including obtaining a domestic violence restraining order.

What is the #1 most important thing in any relationship?

Building Healthy Relationships Communication is a key part to building a healthy relationship. The first step is making sure you both want and expect the same things—being on the same page is very important. The following tips can help you create and maintain a healthy relationship: Speak Up. Respect Them Compromise. Be Supportive. Respect Each Other’s Privacy. Create boundaries

7 keys to improve relationships 1. Relationships evolve; be willing to change and adapt to the new relationship 2. Work 3. Communicate 4. Have empathy 5. Trust 6. Be confident in yourself, values, and boundaries. 7. Love and serve

“UP” couple scene https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F2bk_9T482g

Healthy Relationship Model

Taylor Swift- Blank Space

Kelly Clarkson- Piece by Piece (American Idol)

Song Analysis 1. Who is in this relationship (what kind of relationship is it?) 2. Does this depict a healthy or unhealthy relationship? 3. Why is the relationship healthy or unhealthy? (List 3 specific reasons or characteristics from the song). 4. Diagram the RAM model according to the relationship in the song.

Wrap-Up Questions