Chapter 4 Lessons1,2,3 Managing Stress & Coping with Loss Manage Stress Coping with Loss and Grief Resiliency

Do Now Take worksheet off my desk and begin to take Stress Quiz

Stress- is the reaction of the body and mind to everyday challenges and demands Stressor – what causes the stress Alcoholism Separated Parents Verbal Abuse Low Self Esteem Trouble in school Eating Disorder Suicidal thoughts Negative peer pressure How can stress be bad? Watch 3 minute video

Body’s Stress Response 3 Stages 1)Alarm stage– body is prepared quick action (fight or flight) Adrenaline released (hormone released) HR & Blood Pressure increase Digestion slows Muscles contract Hearing and vision

Body attempts to regain internal balance Adrenaline stops 2) Resistance stage – Body attempts to regain internal balance Adrenaline stops Body returns to normal 3) Fatigue stage- body stays in alarm stage for long periods of time Risk of injury, illness, & death Let's try breathing

GOOD STESS OR BAD STRESS Moving to new state starting school Going out on a first date Presenting a seminar in front of class Meeting you boyfriend/girlfriend’s parents Finding out you (or partner) is pregnant Worried about taking a test

How Stress Affects Your Health Psychosomatic response- physical symptoms brought on by stress PHYSICAL Headaches Stomach problems High blood pressure Weak immune system Dizziness, general aches and pains, grinding teeth, clenched jaws, headaches, indigestion, muscle tension, difficulty sleeping, racing heart, ringing in the ears, stooped posture, sweaty palms, tiredness, exhaustion, trembling, weight gain or loss, upset stomach

How Stress Affects Your Health Constant worry, difficulty making decisions, forgetfulness, inability to concentrate, lack of creativity, poor memory Anger, anxiety, depression, feeling powerless, frequent irritability, loneliness, negative thinking, nervousness, sadness EMOTIONAL/SOCIAL Concentration Mood swings Crying/Frustration

How do you handle stress? Chronic Stress – Stress associated with long term problems that are beyond a persons control

Stress Management Skills - Manage stress in healthful effective way AVOIDING & LIMITING STRESS Refusal skills – say no to things that add to your stress Plan Ahead Think Positively

Handling Stress and Reducing its Effects 4) Relaxation Response – breathing, stretching, warm bath, massage 5) Redirect Energy – jog, creative project, swim 6) Seek Support Relaxation response – calm state Progressive Muscle Relaxation Get comfortable Tighten muscles in toes, hold for a count of 10, relax Flex muscles in your feet, hold 10, relax, shoulders, arms neck, and face Move slowly up body, tensing and relaxing, legs, abdomen,

Resilient – bouncing back from difficult times successfully STAYING HEALTHY & BUILDING RESILIENCY 7) Sleep 8) Regular Exercise 9) Eat Nutritious Foods - Avoid caffeine Resilient – bouncing back from difficult times successfully

Stressors and being Resilient

Summarizer Analyze the stressors you have in your life and pick three (can use the back of the worksheet from the other day). Create 3 ways to help you manage those stressors.

Do Now Have you ever experienced any type of loss in your life? What were some feelings and thoughts that you had when it happened?

WHAT IS LOSS? Loss can be losing someone we love because they die or other events : Breaking up Not getting into the college of your dreams Friend moving away Having something you care for destroyed Not winning a competition

Death & Grief Coping- dealing successfully with difficult changes in your life “However mean your life is, meet it and live it.” - Henry David Thoreau

Stages of Grief Denial or numbness – difficult to believe the loss has occurred Emotional release – the loss is recognized, often includes periods of crying Anger – he or she feels powerless and unfairly deprived Bargaining – as the reality sets in, the person may promise to change if what was loss can be returned Depression – beyond the feelings of sadness, feelings of isolation, alienation, and hopelessness Remorse – person may become preoccupied with thoughts about how the loss could have been prevented Acceptance – person faces the reality of the loss and experiences closure (acceptance of a loss) Hope – Remembering becomes less painful, person looks ahead to the future

Mourning – act of showing sorrow or grief COPE WITH DEATH HAPPY VIDEO Help Others Mourn Acknowledge the loss & ask how feel Listen, Express Concern, Offer Help, Be genuine Last Lecture Grief/PTSD DON’T IGNORE THEIR LOSS & ACT LIKE IT DID NOT HAPPEN Do you want to get together & talk? My favorite memory of your loved one is… It must be hard for you right now I am sorry about your loss Is there anything I could do to help you through this I don’t know how you feel, but I am here to help in anyway I can. Kid in Green Cleats

ANGER ACCEPTANCE BARGAINING

DENIAL DEPRESSION