Good Parenting and Childering Ephesians 6:1-4 Pastor Kevin Hulstrom

Use Love and Logic Rules-Rational=Rebellion Rational-Rules=Riot Rules+Rational= Reasonable and Respectful

Helpful Hints Controlling our children is not loving them or helpful in preparing them for adulthood. Instruct them so they can instruct their children. “Because I said so” is not a good answer. Give solid reasons for your rules. Don’t get caught up in our child’s sense of urgency. Take time to make good decisions. Tell them, ”I want to make a good decision, let me think and pray about it”. Realize that our kids embarrass us sometimes. Accept that reality and remain consistent in our Godly parenting. Make transition from commander to consultant at adolescence.

Problems we experience when we choose to dishonor our parents Dishonoring becomes a habit. The promise for honoring is that, “it might go well with you”. If you gain the habit of dishonoring and take it with you to your work, school, or your future wife or husband life will not go well for you. We stop being teachable. People who aren’t teachable, become unwise and make bad decisions

Suggestions Put yourself in your parent’s shoes. You will have that job someday. Manage your peers influence- It is not wise to follow your friends wisdom over your parents or other people who have more life experience Friends don’t stick around and help you when you mess up Intentionally invest in your family Take your mom to lunch, Buy dad an ice cream cone Maintain a good attitude on vacations, home work days, doing dishes, etc Learn and speak Chinese so you can talk to relatives. It is not a curse, it is a huge gift