Dialogue, A way to grow into maturity

Dialogue Interaction and communication between two or more differentiated realities or persons based on respect, acceptance and mutual enrichment Monologue is a closed communication where one relates only with oneself

God has created a highly differentiated world With distinction, Separation And mutually related and conditioned within a larger whole

God created a world marked by beauty of diversity God created a world marked by creative difference

God found that it was good Genesis.1

beauty of created difference Differentiation of species and kinds beauty of created difference

The mystery of the human

Differenciation in gender, race and culture

God found that it was good Genesis.1 God did not create anything that is self-sufficient and fully autonomous and self-sustaining. Creation is inter-dependent.

Homogeneous human realities often differentiated itself Religions divided within into sects and groups, cultures have different sub-groups.

Dialogue enhanes growth and maturity Seperation and rupture takes place when differentiated factors are not held together in balance and unity

At the level of the person The inner world of the person is differentiated. Physical, psychological and spiritual Past, present and future Needs, values and attitudes thinking, feeling and willing The three dimensions

thoughts feelings intuition Self impulses imganination

Awakening of the self Psychological maturity: When the self is awakened and enters into dialogue with the different faculties to reach its goal When the subject holds the verious factors into a harmonious unity and integration. Self interacts with feelings and thoughts and inclinations to respond to a situation based of the innate drive towards Truth and goodness

An awakened self gains wisdom from knowledge Truth from facts Insight from events Illumined by the inner light even in the darkness of the soul.

Core of inner dialogue I-Thou Discovery of the presence of the Present One God is experienced as: the subject of the subject Centre of the centre Light of one’s inner light I-Thou

Differentiation of persons Dialogue with others Differentiation of persons we I thou

Aloneness, lonliness and solitude In the dynamis of communion

Inner drive to be connected and the urge to be oneself From dependence and independence to interdependence

Lonliness An experience of absence even in the midst of presence. A biting sense of being left alone, unwanted, uncared. One may find oneself lifeless, unconnected, dejected and depressed in moments of lonliness.

Do you feel lonly? Most humans speak of the pain of being occasionally lonly. It is dreaded by people and they try to escape it by various ways. We speak of the lonliness of batchlors, singles, the old , the sick, the divorced, the widowed and unhappy couples.

Life alone is as dull as a monologue even at its best

And as scaring as a scarecrow even at its heights

How do you escape from lonliness?

Common escape routes Workholism Alcoholism Sexual acting out Rough Music Casual relationships Window shopping Telephone, mobile Internet surfing……

It is not good for man to be alone…..Gen.1.

Lonliness is a horror but Solitude is a source of profound joy

Transforming lonliness into solitude Solitude is the experience of presense even in the absence of loved one’s around you

You can transform your lonliness into rich moments of growth, creativity and communion

Both Lonliness and solitude have roots in your aloneness

Aloneness is a fact of your existence & individuality You are a unique & unrepeatable person

Physical and psychological individuation is an achievement of your growth process

Individuation is a condition for communion

Individuation is a condition for Communion

Aloneness acepted and lived as a gift opens way for solitude and communion

Aloneness rejected and despised leads to lonlines and despair

Aloneness is the base of creativity and exploration

Aloneness is a condition for relating, caring & loving

Relating is the base of communication, communion & community building

Enjoy your aloneness as a gift

Gift your self as a donation