A Typical Day He is so incompetent it makes me crazy…

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A Typical Day He is so incompetent it makes me crazy… When she does that it just gets on my nerves… He continually wastes my time by arriving late and missing deadlines. She invades my space and uses my stuff. He makes so much noise I can’t concentrate! She talks so much and tells me things I really don’t want to know.

Objectives This workshop will help you: Recognize the symptoms of a negative workplace relationship. Recognize the role each of us plays in these situations. Learn how to set boundaries and control your reactions to co-workers who cross those boundaries. Learn how to “unhook” yourself from difficult interpersonal situations at work.

Who’s Affected? The organization Clients and customers Co-workers Family and friends

Working With You Is Killing Me Video

Defining Some Terms Confining Roles An unconscious way WE act that can typecast us Boundary Busters The things people do that intrude on our space Toxic Relationships The way OTHERS act that gets us hooked Unhook physically Unhook mentally Unhook verbally Unhook with a business tool

Confining Roles Hero Invisible One Rebel Caretaker Peacemaker Martyr Entertainer

When Is a Role a Hook? Playing a role becomes a hook if it constricts you or limits your ability to move ahead. You may feel branded You may be overlooked for promotions or raises You are spending too much time on other people’s problems

Boundaries Time Personal Space Keeping Their Word Personal Information Expressing Emotion Manners and Courtesy Noise Others?

Toxic Relationships Empty Pit Chip on the Shoulder Exploder Saboteur Pedestal Smasher

Unhooking 1. Unhook Physically 2. Unhook Mentally 3. Unhook Verbally There are 4 main steps to unhooking: 1. Unhook Physically 2. Unhook Mentally 3. Unhook Verbally 4. Unhook with a Business Tool

Unhook Physically Deep breathing Walk the hallway Step outside and enjoy the weather Splash cold water on your face Count to ten

Unhook Mentally Examine the situation to understand how it occurred, and how you can change your behavior. View the circumstances objectively to see what practical options are available.

Ask Yourself… What’s happening? What are the facts? What is his or her part? What is my part? What are my options? And… What is the result I want? What are the consequences of each of my options?

Unhook Verbally Think about what to say that will resolve the problem, not perpetuate it. When setting a boundary with someone, state it clearly, without anger, in as few words as possible. Don’t set a boundary unless you’re prepared to maintain it. Use positive, inclusive language.

I Statements An “I” Statement consists of four parts: I feel… when… because… so I’d like… I felt tension between us when we were in our team meeting because you seemed to ignore my report – so I’d like to go through it with you. I felt uncomfortable when I came back from lunch and found you digging through my desk drawers because that’s an invasion of my personal space. In the future, please just ask me for whatever you need, and I’ll be happy to find it for you. I feel disrespected when you are late getting me your numbers because it causes me to be late with my report and look bad in front of my boss. We need to find a way to meet the deadline every month, so can we work out a new schedule? I was very unhappy when we reviewed the project plan, because it left me with a lot of work and no time. Can we go over the plan again?

Unhook with a Business Tool Business tools help you reduce the emotional level of your next interaction. A business tool is any standard procedure or written document used in a business setting.

Business Tools For Employees For Supervisors Memos, email, letters Employee goals or other benchmarks Meeting agendas to control use of time For Supervisors Job descriptions Policies and procedures Performance reviews Disciplinary action forms Memos, email, letters 360-degree reviews

Expect to be Tested! Expect slips or negative behaviors to reappear. Restate the agreed-upon decision regarding the boundary. Some people won’t change. You’ll have to detach yourself and depersonalize your behavior. You have a right to enjoy your work - resolve things, talk to a manager or HR, or consider changing positions.

Workshop Summary You now know how to: Unhook yourself from difficult interpersonal situations at work Recognize the symptoms of a toxic workplace relationship Set boundaries and control your reactions to co-workers who cross them Recognize confining roles and work around them

Thank you for participating!