RSVP “Resolve to Stop the Violence Programme” Working with Male perpetrators of Domestic Abuse

Criteria Over 18 Male Intimate relationship with victim Bristol based Acknowledgment of DA  

How? Referral – Self or agency Assessment / Risk process / Partners details 10 x 1:1 sessions Tools given to make positive changes Appropriately challenge myths, objectifications, sexualisation's, male / female gender roles, beliefs, motivations, and intentions. Ex/Partner details passed onto Next Link worker for further support.

Domestic violence and abuse: Definition Domestic violence and abuse: New definition The cross-government definition of domestic violence and abuse is: Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are, or have been, intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. The abuse can encompass, but is not limited to: Psychological Physical Sexual Financial Emotional

Statistics 1 in 4 women experience DA in their lifetime. 2 Women a week are killed in the UK by a current or former partner (that's 1 every 3 days). Domestic violence has a higher rate of repeat victimisation than any other crime. On average, a woman is abused 35 times before her first call to the police.

Types of Abuse Physical Emotional/ Psychological Financial Sexual Impact upon children

Physical Abuse Kicking / Slapping/ Punching / Strangling Spitting Restraining Biting Forcing/ persuading Alcohol or drugs upon partner Forcing /persuading her to get Body /Genital piercing / tattoos Withholding access to medical care / Medication Sleep deprivation / placing in stress positions

Emotional/ Psychological Threats Name calling Isolation Belittling Manipulation Stalking Controlling behaviour

Financial Withdrawing / limiting finances Preventing partner from working Forcing partner to work Running up debts in partners name Theft Misuse of welfare benefits / fraud Being sole keeper of Credit / Debit cards

Sexual Rape / Coercive sex Forcing partner to watch/ role play pornographic material Sulking if partner wont engage in sexual activities Forcing/ persuading to take photographs of partner naked Forcing/ persuading partner to not take birth control

Impact on children Broken family unit Miss school / clubs / isolated from friends Eating disorders Depressed, aggressive Bed wetting Anxious Self harm High chance of becoming abusive themselves

RSVP will explore Looking at the cause of violence The different types of abuse What the perpetrators triggers are Ways in which to reduce risk to others Ways of managing perpetrators emotions in a positive way

Aims To recognise and own his own abusive patterns. Perpetrator will have a more in-depth idea of what abuse means and how he can implement positive change. Continue to use the tools in the future to prevent further abusive behaviours. For partner/future partner and children to be safe from harm.

Power & Control Wheel

Cycle of Abuse

Gains & Losses Situation: How you feel at present: GAINS LOSSES YOU OTHERS How you feel now:

Cognitive Triangle Thoughts Situation Actions Feelings

Control Log

QUOTE “There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in.” ― Desmond Tutu

Brunswick Court, Brunswick Square RSVP DHI Bristol Brunswick Court, Brunswick Square Bristol BS2 8PE Tel: 0117 9166588 Mob: 07917171887 rsvp@dhibristol.org.uk