10 Words Week 4 Honouring Parents Exodus 20:12

Exodus 20:12 (niv) 12 “Honour your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.

Honour Original Word: כָּבַד Transliteration: kabad or kabed Phonetic Spelling: (kaw-bad') Definition to be heavy, weighty, or burdensome kabad or kabed: to be heavy, weighty, or burdensome Treat with gravity, with weight with substance

To dishonour was considered in Hebrew as a “Curse”

For some this word is like a warm cup of milo on a cold day For others this word strikes fear and rouses memories that are unpleasant in the least.

Kids = 0-17 years old What does it look like for kids to HONOUR PARENTS

Kids = Obey Really simple do what your told First time your told Turn off your device Stack the dishwasher Clean your room Do what your told Disobey is to dishonour Lying to parents Shirking your responsibilities CAVIOT – if your in a situation where your being mistreated or abused in some way then to honour is to protect yourself

Colossians 3:20-21 20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. My parents are Jerks & they don’t give me freedom, they’re old, controlling etc They feed you, house you & take care of you Parents have to raise you, take care of you, feed you, take you to hospital etc Honouring your parents pleases Jesus! This is an act of submission and love to Jesus, spiritual maturity You can disagree yet still honour your parents Again if you’re being physically, psychologically or sexually abused by your parents then honouring them Isn't submitting yourself to more abuse

Adult Children = What's it look like for adult Children to Honour their parents?

Adult Children = Assistance Part of this command was to ensure that adult children didn’t abandon their elderly parents when they needed caring for “So you may live long in the land your Lord God will Give you” The idea here isn’t do this & then God will… The idea is God is forging a new kind of community Where the weak are cared for by the strong, where the wealthy share with the poor Where kids who were cared for by parents CARE FOR PARENTS WHEN THEY GET OLDER! Helping out parents with medical issues, houses,

What do you do when you have Bad experiences with our Parents? What about when they his mistreated you repeatedly AGAIN IF YOU HAVE EXPERIENCED ABUSE DON’T GO BACK FOOLHEARDLY Grace Joyce Myer story about her assistance with her abusive father

Mark 7:9-13 9 And he continued, “You have a fine way of setting aside the commands of God in order to observe your own traditions!10 For Moses said, ‘Honour your father and mother,’ and, ‘Anyone who curses their father or mother is to be put to death.’ 11 But you say that if anyone declares that what might have been used to help their father or mother is Corban (that is, devoted to God)— 12 then you no longer let them do anything for their father or mother. 13 Thus you nullify the word of God by your tradition that you have handed down. And you do many things like that.” THIS IS GOD (JESUS) SPEAKING Corban- dedicated money/asset to Gods put aside for God’s work. Pharisees were using a legal loophole they would call “Corban” on their assets Then they didn’t have top car for ageing parents TALMUDIC TEACHER “while Jesus considered the vow to be illegal & void, the Rabbis held it to be merely voidable” So if your giving all your money to the Church and not looking after your own people Jesus is speaking to you.

1 Tim 5:3-4 3 Give proper recognition to those widows who are really in need.  4 But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God Paul teaching Pastor Timothy how to help out the widows in need WHATS THE QUALIFICATION FOR NEEDING HELP?

To Honour Parents… Kids = Obey Adult Children = Assistance Honouring Parents Makes God Happy 