Journal Make a list of 10 creative dates that are low-cost, but fun. Text Read: Pg. 152-156 Do: Review #3-6, pg. 164 Dating Behavior Journal Make a list of 10 creative dates that are low-cost, but fun.

Creative Dates

You Are the Parent Your daughter comes home from a date and is upset. When you ask her what is wrong, she explains that her date took her to a party where he got drunk. She was very frightened as he drove her home. How would that make you, as a parent, feel? Your son comes home from a date and confides in you that his date seduced him. How would you feel? What would you do? It’s 11:45 pm. Your daughter runs in the door crying. After you calm her down, she tells you that her date raped her. How would you feel? What would you do?

You Are the Parent Your daughter comes into your room to talk to you late one night and says: “Mom, Dad, I’ve been waiting for the right time to tell you this, but there just doesn’t seem to be a right time. I think I’m pregnant.” How would you feel? What would you do? A car full of teens pulls up in front of your house and honks the horn for your son/daughter. Just as she/he is leaving the house, you see beer cans in the rear window of the car. What would you do? Your son is really infatuated with a girl at school. Every time you have seen this girl she has been wearing revealing clothing. Does this concern you? What would you do?

State #9 Personal Rules and Responsibilities Take 10

If You Were the Parent… Assume that you are the parent. What rules would you have for your teenager? What would keep them safe? List on board How do they compare to the list you made for yourself?

Ups and Downs

Life

Dating

Actual Scenario

Stages of Dating Stage One: Gushy Typical “We have so many things in common.” Characteristics Artificial – both on best behavior Same likes: music, cars, people, food Everything is funny Lots of talking to each other on the phone. Problems Whether to express affection or not. How to say goodnight. Prefer group association to being alone.

Stages of Dating Stage Two: Playing Games Typical Have hearts crossed out all over their notebooks. Have swollen eyes from crying on the average of three times a day. Characteristics Very possessive and jealous Comes late for dates or not ready. Personality traits valued more than just an interest in the opposite sex. A time of extremes: tears, happiness Power struggle – where to eat, what show to go see.

Stages of Dating Stage Three: Goal-Directed Characteristics They are glad to see each other do things with other friends. They trust one another. They want each other to be happy. They are interested in seeing each other fulfill goals. They are more interested in each other’s long-term happiness than in their own short-term pleasure. May be engaged or near engagement. Begin to notice things in each other: picky about food, stays up late, spend-thrift, etc.

Love Curves

Signals Divide class into two groups, girls and guys. As a group, decide on a response for each question. “What do you think when he/she…” flirts with you? says “no” to a kiss when you are saying good-night. is wearing sexy smelling perfume or after-shave? is wearing sexy clothing. uses fowl or off-color language. uses suggestive body language. lets you touch private body parts. like to party and drink beer. says, “I love you.” has a poor reputation, but asks you for a date.

Do girls and guys interpret signals the same? How are kissing and petting associated? How are making out and making love associated? Is drinking alcohol and sexual activity associated? Are drugs and alcohol associated?

How to Say No Just say no. Ignore the comment. Make an excuse. “I’d rather not.” Ignore the comment. Appear not to hear, or act too busy. Make an excuse. “I’m tired.” Change the subject. “Isn’t it time for dinner.” Turn the idea into a joke. “How could you suggest such a thing when you know I’m on a diet.” Act surprised. “You’ve got to be kidding!” Express your feelings for them. “Sorry, but I like you to much to do that.” Suggest a different plan. “Let’s go to my house and make a pizza. Return the challenge. “If you really liked me, you’d never ask me to do that.” Leave.

State Performance Evaluation

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