Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students August 2016 Adapted from the work of Dr. Allan Beane – www.bullyfree.com

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students What is Bullying? “Bullying is when a person or group of people hurts, embarrasses, or frightens another person on purpose over and over again. A bully’s goal is to have power over people.” – Dr. Allan Beane

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students What Does Bullying Look Like? Name calling Hitting Kicking Pinching Tripping Shoving Sexual Harassment Rude Hand Gestures Mean or False Email/Text Messages Spreading Rumors Stealing or Breaking Someone’s Things Put Downs Threats Intimidation Leaving Someone Out Teasing Any behavior that is intended to harm another student Please Note: Bullying can occur in many ways in many places such as at home, school, online, or in the community. Indiana law says schools can issue consequences for bullying regardless of the location and way the bullying occurs.

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students Myths about Bullying If someone laughs when I tease them, they know I am just playing and are “OK” with it. FALSE. No one can predict how another person takes a “put down” sometimes people smile and laugh because it’s less embarrassing than crying or getting into a confrontation. Some people deserve to be bullied. FALSE. No one ever deserves to be bullied or “asks for it” Bullies often target people who are “different” in some way. Being different is not a reason to be bullied.

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students Myths about Bullying Bullying is a normal part of growing up. FALSE. Getting teased, picked on, pushed around, threatened, harassed, insulted, and abused is not normal. The best way to deal with a bully is by fighting or trying to get even. FALSE. Fighting can only get you hurt or in trouble. It only makes things worse. People who are bullied will get over it. FALSE. Bullying can hurt for a long time. Some students have dropped out of school because of bullying. Other have become so sad, afraid, or depressed that they have hurt themselves or others. It is a serious problem.

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students What to DO if you are bullied. Stand up for yourself. If you don’t feel like you are in danger, stand up straight, look the bully in the eye, and say in a confident voice, “leave me alone!” Then walk off. If you are In real danger, walk (or Run) away. Get away as quickly as possible. Be smart and safe. Report it! Tell an adult such as a teacher, dean, principal, or school counselor as soon as possible. You can report incidences of bullying confidentially.

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students What to DO if you are bullied. Avoid the Bully. Think about where and when you usually run into the bully and avoid those places and times. Buddy Up! Bullies most often go after students who are alone. Walk with someone or a group of students.

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students DO NOT… Ignore the Bullying Situation and Hope It Will Stop. Bullying usually doesn’t stop on it’s own. Decide whether to stand up for yourself, or get help from an adult who can help you solve the problem. Cry. Bullies like having power over people and making them cry. It’s best to stay as calm as possible, walk away, and find someone who can help. Fight Back. If you fight, threaten, call the bully names, the situation could escalate out of control. Plus, you may become a bully yourself.

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students What Do I Do When Others are Bullied? Be an UPSTANDER not a BYSTANDER! Speak out using words like these: “Stop hitting her.” “Leave him alone.” “That’s not cool” “That’s not okay” “I’m going to report this right now.” Refuse to Join in. Don’t be part of the bad behavior by your words, actions, presence, or silence. Report it. Report any bullying to a teacher or other adult right away. You can do this confidentially.

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students What Do I Do When Others are Bullied? Be a Friend. Be a friend to the person being bullied. Invite them to walk with you and your group of friends. Include Others. Make a point to include other students who may be left out of groups, clubs, games, sports, etc. Important to Note: Never fight the bully. It is not safe and could escalate the problem out of control.

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students What do I do if I am a Bully? It’s Never Too Late to Change. Stop bullying others right now! Start by being respectful and showing respect to others. Talk with adults you trust (parents, teachers, counselors, youth leaders) about the bullying. Tell them about strong feelings (like anger or stress) that you have.

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students What do I do if I am a Bully? It’s Never Too Late to Change. Remember that what you say, write, text, or post on social media can be very hurtful so be sure to take a moment to think about the possible negative impact your words may have on others before you communicate them. Always keep your hands and feet to yourself. If you start to feel angry, upset, or just feel like messing with someone, STOP and THINK. Take a deep breath. Don’t bully someone. Instead, think about your choices. Think about the consequences your actions may have for you and others.

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students What do I do if I am a Bully? REMEMBER... YOU decide your actions. YOU are in charge of what you do. YOU can decide to stop bullying and help yourself and your school to be bully free. REMEMBER… “The choices you make today, shape your world tomorrow.”

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students Rules for a Bully Free School 1. Bullying is not allowed in our classrooms or anywhere else in our school. 2. We build people up. We don’t tease, call names, or put people down. 3. We don’t hit, shove, kick, or punch. 4. If we see someone being bullied, we speak up and stop it (if we can) or go for help right away. 5. When we do things as a group, we make sure everyone is included and no one is left out.

Anti-Bullying Basic Training for Students Rules for a Bully Free School 6. We make new students feel welcomed. 7. We listen to each other’s opinions. 8. We treat each other with kindness and respect. 9. We respect each other’s property. 10. We look for good in others and value differences.

How to Report Concerns at WHS Tell a teacher Tell Mr. Thompson or Mrs. Bragg Submit a form to one of the Brave Boxes Submit a concern via the Liberty-Perry Schools app ALL REPORTS WILL BE INVESTIGATED