Class Aims: H-370 September 3, 2009 Aims: general introduction to social development: descriptive and explanatory Specific introduction to developmental, social, cultural frames Class Watch video Questions and comments on each segment K, 3, 5 Interpret what you see and hear Ways of comparing Holly: historical, not old Introductions: Connection/Reactions to Holly Specific “Central Theory” Introduction For next Tuesday Hand out Holly Teachers Guide material Critique Teachers Guide in light of lecture and slides Use today’s discussion to critique K and B

Kindergarten Girl 1- age 5 “This is my cat and this is Wendy” (her teacher) And why do you trust your cat, and why do you trust me? “Because my cat is funny and you give us toys to play with.”

Kindergarten Girl 2- age 5 “I trust Sabrina.” Why? “Because she always plays with me.” Is that a good feeling when she plays with you? (Nods, Yes) Does Sabrina trust you? (Nods, Yes) What do you do so that Sabrina trusts you? “Play with her and follow her!”

Kindergarten Girl 3 - age 5 Show us your picture What is that? “Conchita” (the classroom aide) (In Spanish) What does Conchita do for you? “Mucha Cosa” She does a lot of things for you.

Kindergarten Girl 4- age 5 “I trust my dog.” And what does your dog do that you trust your dog? “Anything I tell him to do, he does it.”

Kindergarten Boy - age 6 “I trust Conchita and Wendy.” What do we do that makes you think you can trust us? “You help me do things I don´t know how to do.” Any one else? “My two brothers.” Why? “They don´t hit me...but they´re little!!”

Two third Graders- Girls age 8 Who is someone you trust? “I trust my friend because she is always honest with me and she tells the truth.” Who is someone you do not trust? “I do not trust my little brother because he aggravates me, he is always lying to me and he is always taking my money.”

Third Graders-Girls age 8 Describe a person (who is your friend). “She is kind, nice, calm.” What do you like to do? “Read, play, discuss things, just talk.” What are things you disagree with? “Clothes: She likes certain clothes and I like certain clothes.”

Third Graders-Girls age 8 Does this person trust you? “Yes.” Why does she trust you? “I´m a nice friend and most of the time I´m honest with her.” How does she influence you? “She makes me trust her more.” How do you influence her? “The same way.”

Third Graders-age 8 Who is someone who knows both of you? “Our friend, Lakeisha.” What is her view of your relationship? “It it a good relationship and should go on forever.”

Third Graders-Girls age 8 Do you believe trust is important among friends? “Yes.” Why? “If you have a friend and you are honest their trust will build and and if they are always lying to you their trust won´t build in you.”

Third Graders-Girls age 8 Why? “Because if you lie to them, they won´t trust you and your relationship will go apart and apart and apart.”

Fifth Grade Boys-ages 10 and 11 Do you believe trust is important among friends? “Yes, Trust is important among friends because that is how they know they are good friends. If they do not trust each other they won´t be good friends.”

Fifth Grade Boys-ages 10 and 11 Who is a person you trust and who is a person you do not trust (and why)? “I trust Joel because he is nice to me and shares with me.” “I do not trust Miguel because he is into everything.”

Fifth Grade Boys-ages 10 and 11 What do you do together? “Play basketball, eat pizza.” Why does he trust you? “I never tell his secrets.” How does this person influence you? “He is nice to me so I am nice back.”

Fifth Grade Boys-ages 10 and 11 Who is a person you do not trust? “Lots of people.” Name one. “I don´t want to make this person feel bad but.....probably Christina.” Why don´t you trust this person? “She´s sneaky. She has too many gossips in her brain.”

Looking for Differences in Social Interaction (i.e. Descriptions of) 1: Individual (or “personality”) Differences E.g. cautious versus adventurous Extrovert versus Introvert 2: Group (or “population”) Differences E.g. girls versus boys Ethnic groups, identity groups 3: Developmental Differences E.g. age related Maturity related

“Causes” of Social Behavior (Explanations/Antecedents) Nature genetic biological temperament Nurture family friends community and society

Themes of Social Awareness: How expressed by children? Power/Dominance Care/Support Reciprocity/Ethics/fairness

The growth of reciprocity: Secrets and Lies Do you believe trust is important among friends? “Yes.” Why? “If you have a friend and you are honest their trust will build and and if they are always lying to you their trust won´t build in you.”

The growth of reciprocity: Secrets and Lies What do you do together? “Play basketball, eat pizza.” Why does he trust you? “I never tell his secrets” versus “We never squeal on each other” versus “ We respect each other’s privacy” How does this person influence you? “He is nice to me so I am nice back.”

Developmental Differences among Friends Lies as unilateral transgressions If she lies to me…….. Betrayal of secrets as breaking a bilateral agreement (a norm of “reflective reciprocity”) I tell her a secret and she keeps it