Bell Ringer #3 Textbook page 88-90 Do objective #2 (List the 12 ideals only) Then, number the 12 ideals, in the order of importance to you, as you would teach your child.

FAMILY LIFE EDUCATION RELATIONSHIPS

Sexual Identity Sexuality - the feelings and attitudes a person has about his/her body, sex, role, and relationships. Your sexuality is influenced from birth (male or female). Your parents influence your sex roles by shaping your attitudes. Sex Role - the way a person acts and the feelings/attitudes he/she has about being male or female. Also includes expectations people have for other males/females. (accepting who one is and who one wants to be)

Nature and Purpose of Dating Dating is having SOCIAL plans with another person. “Going Out” or “Hanging Out” are other phrases. Dating is a developmental task of adolescence. One needs to develop dating skills. Parents, many times, are examples that are followed (neg. and pos.). Dating is a developmental step toward marriage.

6 Dating Standards (Used by an Adolescent and/or Parent) Background information on the person being dated. Give exact plans. Arrange for safe transportation. Curfew Establish a code of conduct for yourself. (Self-respect) Establish a code of conduct for the person you are dating. (Respect for others)

Dating Skills Checklist Should be discussed with adolescents, by the parents, ahead of time. Page 119 - Read the 10 skills on the checklist and see how many apply to your development. **Discuss**

Positive/Negative Effects of T.V. or Media Influencing Relationships Desensitization - the effect of reacting less and less to the exposure of something. Teens who are exposed to a lot of negative relationship qualities, begin to accept those as common and think those qualities are necessary for their own. **Discuss** Also desensitization comes from within the family. (observation of one’s own parents)

Maintenance of Positive Human Relationships Values, morals, and ethics are essential to the growth and maintenance of positive human relationships. Value - a principle that you follow that is regarded as worthwhile or desirable. Moral - standards of right and wrong. Ethics - the method of right or good conduct.

Expectations of Self As you prepare for the responsibilities of adulthood, you should include an evaluation of your actions. You can develop self-respect if your actions are responsible. Self-Respect - a high regard for oneself because one behaves in a responsible way. Self-Esteem - a person’s belief about his/her worth. Conceit - excessive appreciation of one’s self-worth.

Expectations cont. Character - a person’s use of self control to act on responsible values. It is how you act when nobody else is watching. Self-Control - the degree to which a person regulates his/her own behavior.

Expectations of Interpersonal Relationships One should have the same expectations in a partner as they would have of themselves. Relationships are not a “one-way street”. They require give and take. You should not treat someone any differently than you would want to be treated.

Factors in Preparing for Dating Developing dating skills is important. These are competencies that help a person when he/she has a date, or plans on asking someone out. Having Courage to get a date Being up front Being ready for steady (handle the responsibility of dating only one person) How to turn down a date It’s okay not to go out Loan or Gift (know the difference and if it needs to be returned after a break-up)

Recognizing Harmful Relationships A Harmful Relationship is; one that harms self-respect, interferes with productivity and health, and includes violence and/or drug misuse and abuse. Some people lack self-respect. They are not interested in the health of others. They do not encourage others to be productive and do their best. They relate with others in harmful ways.

10 Profiles of People Who Relate in Harmful Ways The People Pleaser - one who will do anything to be liked. Someone who constantly seeks the approval of others. The Enabler - One who supports the harmful behavior of others. They may also contribute to the harmful ways of another person.

10 Profiles cont. The Clinger - one who is needy and dependent. Constantly turning to someone else to feel better. Suffocates others due to their needs. The Fixer - a person who tries to fix other people’s problems. Too quick to give advice. Takes over other people’s responsibilities.

10 Profiles cont. The Distancer - One who is emotionally unavailable. Avoids sharing feelings. Keeps people at arm’s length. The Controller - One who is possessive, jealous, and domineering. Doesn’t respect the will of others. Demands his/her own way.

10 Profiles cont. The Center - One who is self-centered. Does the talking but not the listening. Ignores the needs of others. The Abuser - One who abuses others. Puts down others. Threatens or harms others. The Liar - Does not tell the truth. Builds relationships based on lies. Manipulates others into the responses he/she wants.

10 Profiles cont. The Promise Breaker - Is unreliable. Makes plans and cancels them without regret. Agrees to change behaviors and doesn’t do so.

END OF DAY 3